(Closed) About courthouse weddings — Would you? Did you?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Courthouse wedding?
    We did it / are planning to do it and are not having another ceremony later : (24 votes)
    20 %
    We did it / are planning to do it and are planning a more formal wedding later : (28 votes)
    23 %
    We'd consider it out of necessity : (30 votes)
    25 %
    We'd never consider it : (38 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
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    14503 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My FHs ex-wife died shortly before our original wedding date so we opted to move it back one full year.  For the sake of the kids involved, FH working a very dangerous job, and for financial reasons we did a quicky marriage with a JOP and are having the whole big wedding next year.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1986 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I wouldn’t consider it. I’m not in any rush to get married though, we’re mentally married for all intensive purposes. So if it takes a couple more years to save up for our ideal wedding and reception, than so be it πŸ™‚

    ETA I don’t think poorly of them or anything, it’s just not for us πŸ˜€

    Post # 6
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    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We are sort of the opposite.  I really wanted a destination wedding, with just a handful of family and friends (less than 10.) We decided to do the big, formal wedding to please everyone.  Somehow I went from 10 people to 250.  Such is life I guess.

    We are taking our honeymoon over our first anniversary, and I would love to privately renew our vows while we are in Aruba.

    Post # 7
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I didn’t have one- we were going to- but since it cost the same no matter where the officiant married you- we decided to rent a local chapel and have our own mini wedding.  (Sorry if that doesn’t help!  :/)  We basically acted like it was a “real” wedding- cuz it was- for us!  I like your idea about having a reception/ gathering later.  That way everyone can still get together and celebrate.  We just wanted the officiant to let us say our vows and pronounce us married!  πŸ™‚  We rented a limo and DH helped me out and we had a couple of friends take pictures.  (Are you having witnesses?)  We took some pictures outside and DH took me in the Chapel and we visited for a moment with our few guests and then we walked to the front, said our vows, and then visited and had champagne and mini cheesecake.  Then we went for a limo ride around the lakes.

     

    Post # 9
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    4415 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We eloped just the two of us.  But we didn’t do the courthouse route. Instead we had a destination wedding at a B&B in Savannah.  It was absolutely perfect. I had all the beautiful things I wanted, including a formal gown, flowers, and cake. We hired a photographer and videographer. The inn took care of everything, officiant, flowers, cake, champagne, venue…

    Our family wasn’t thrilled that we went off by ourselves, but we wouldn’t change a thing. We had a beautiful wedding without all the drama involved with big weddings. We didn’t have to worry about whether so-and-so had her flowers or the right dress, we didn’t have to worry about a band or DJ, or if the chicken was over cooked.  All we had to do was smile and enjoy ourselves, which is exactly what we did.

     

    Post # 11
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    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I pushed hard for a courthouse wedding…or a trip to Vegas, but DH really wanted an actual ceremony and reception, and I gave in. He wanted the tux and the white dress and all our friends and family, and it was very important to him, and that overrode my desire to elope or go to the courthouse. I’m glad we did, but I’m also glad we kept it very small and intimate (I think we topped out at 50, including the wedding party).

    Post # 12
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    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    FH and I are considering this, for financial aid reasons. If you are under 24 (or 25?), to apply for financial aid, you must include your parents’ income information. (There are some exceptions, like being married– none of which I qualify for right now.) My parents make too much money for me to qualify for grants, but the financial aid department doesn’t account for debt/ prices of homes, etc. So my parents can’t help fund my education at all, and I’m forced to take out student loans which I don’t want to be doing. FH and I are having our wedding in May, but we are talking about getting legally married this month (before the end of the year) so that I can apply for financial aid without my parents in 2011 (opposed to waiting until 2012), and then qualify for some financial aid grants (which I won’t have to pay back).

    I doubt we’re going to do that, but we’re still talking about it.

    (Part of this is from another thread, so if it sounds familiar, you may have already read about it.)

     

    ETA: If we do this, we will still have our “wedding” in May.

    Post # 13
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Mrs Grape That sounds great!  So you are still incorporating everyone.  Sounds really nice.  Did you go over what you want to have happen with the Officiant?

    Lindsay12.31.2010 We did the exact opposite!  That sounds great, renewing in Aruba.  We are thinking of renewing every year, however formal or informal.

    Post # 14
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    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @Mrs Grape: Forgot to add this: Congratulations! I hope you have a wonderful day!

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