Post # 1
Hey Bees! I have a situation that i could use some help with here. My fiance and i have started a wedding website and have filled out the majority of it and we can’t wait to share it with people. We have one issue though. His parents were never together… they met at 16, had him, sent him to live with his grandparents who raised him. His parents never really saw eachother after that and now that they are both in the US (they are originally from the DR) they still never see eachother and basically avoid eachother. It’s not like an all out brawl will happen if they’re within 10 feet of eachother but it’s just uncomfortable.
MY parents were highschool sweethearts, were married for two years, had me and have been happily married for the past 29 years. Naturally i want to honor my parents succesful marriage in our wedding website but i have almost NOTHING to say about his parents except “Ann and Mike met in 1983 in the Domican Republic….” That’s as far as i’ve gotten. Can anyone PLEASE come up with something that makes it sound a little more interesting that the real story?? They met, they did it, she had fiance, gave him to grandparents, never spoke again.
I’m not about to delete the “about our parents” page just because his parents dont have their stuff together. Any suggestions and wording would be great. Thank you!!!
Post # 3
@daniellemc: Take this with a grain of salt, but when I look at a wedding website, I’m really just interested in details related to the wedding, particularly info on travel accomodations, any wedding-related activities happening that weekend, and a link to a registry. I probably spend a total of less than 5 minutes looking at a wedding website, regardless of how familiar or unfamiliar I am with the couple.
I never read info related to couple, their families (which admittedly, I have never actually seen on a wedding website), or the bridal party. I don’t care to look at their engagement photos or read their “love story.” I prefer to get to know the families any unfamiliar bridal party members at the wedding itself. So I think you don’t need to worry about this stuff.
Post # 4
Is an “About the Parents” page a normal thing to have one a wedding website? Doesn’t seem necessary to me.
If you are set on doing this, I’d write about his grandparents who raised him.
Post # 5
I get that you want to honor your parents, that’s sweet, but I think it’s best to delete the page. People go to your wedding website to get information about the wedding, and maybe will read the info about you and your FI. There is absolutely no polite way of posting your parents’ sweet story without making his parents’ story look bad.
Both of our parents are divorced, but if mine were still together (divorced much more recently than his) I would never post an about the parents page to share my parents story and then try to make his story look nice. It would come off so awkward.
Post # 6
I thought about putting an “about the Bridal Party” section up, but then realized that it would be a little awkward and uncomfortable if someone in the party didn’t want that kind of information up online.
Plus, who’s really going to read that? I don’t think I would really care to (no offense meant at all, but I just literally think that kind of info would go in one ear and out the other for me)
I vote skip it entirely and don’t stress out about it. 🙂
Post # 7
You could write they met in the DR, finace born in DR, and then go on to say what they are doing now. Mother is a Doctor working in FL, Father is a teacher working in NYC, etc. Fiance spent most of his childhood with his grandparents and then give grandparents story.
Post # 8
There is no reason to “honor” your parents on a wedding website. I honestly think that’s a little bizarre. I have never seen an “about our parents” page, and since your FI is in a different situation, I’m not sure why you are pushing the issue? I cannot wrap my head around this.
Post # 9
I have to agree that it’s not necessary and, with the circumstances, unwise. You said you don’t want to delete that section, but that’s what I voted.
Post # 10
It’s sweet you want to honor your parents but since his parents don’t have that same sweet story I’d leave it out so it doesn’t cause any drama. Plus it is your wedding website, honestly I would skip right over anything about parents since it isn’t about the bride and groom.
Post # 11
@daniellemc: I would get rid of it entirely on the wedding website – it’s not something I’ve ever seen on one before, it’s not a standard section really. It’s awesome that your parents’ marriage is so successful! I would include some nod to it either in your vows (if you’re writing your own) or in your thank you speech at the reception (if you’re not planning to do one, this would be the perfect opportunity to thank them and honor their marriage).
Post # 12
I don’t think a parent’s page is normally a part of a wedding website (I’ve never seen it and didn’t include one on our site). I wouldn’t include one if I were you, especially if it would be awkward for FI, his family and the guests from their side. You can always say something about your parent’s strong marriage and its example at the wedding. I don’t think the website is the best place to do it.
Post # 13
If you really want to include the parent info, I would continue with what you have,
his parents Ann and Mike met in 1983 in the Domican Republic and ____(FI) was born in ______. In ______(year) _____ (your FI name) began living with his grandparents _________ and ______ and then put info about the grandparents. They are the ones who raised him so they deserve the attention then since they have been his “stand-in parents”.
Post # 14
@melizabe: crazy funny but those are his parents respective states. Not their profession but that’s where they live!!!
Post # 15
@MrsTVLover: I’ve seen several of my friends do this including one of my cousins. This is not bizzar to me at all. I’m also not pushing the issue. I’m asking for advice. your snarky comments aren’t needed.
Post # 16
@ebarnes0: This is a very good suggestion. In our toast to our parents i can honor their succeful marriage in a more public way 🙂