It's your typical Hallmark holiday created to boost sales of things nobody needs. I do not care about Valentine's Day at all.
I care about it, I think its fun. I would be upset if I didn't receive anything.
@nineteen87: thats why I dont care, they just jack up floral and jewelry sales so much.
I have a very, very strong hatred towards this day. I kid you not, I celebrate on February 15th because that means I don't have to hear about it again for another year. I have personal reasons, but I also believe the holiday is a load of crap that was designed for companies like Hallmark.
My SO knows well enough now not to even say Happy Valentines Day to me haha.
It's a hallmark holiday. I wouldn't care if I recieved something or not. I'll still buy my SO something -- Candy, a little trinket, something. But I don't care if it's reciprocated. It's just a day like any other day.
I think it's a cute holiday and I like to celebrate it but not go all out and make a fuss with expensive gifts and dates. It's just a nice way to let your sweetie know I love you.
I don't care about it in the sense that I would be devastated to not be showered with gifts on the day, but I would care if my fiance didn't even notice. We don't tend to spend lots of money on each other, we just take it as a day to consider how lucky we are to have each other.
It's also special, because it's the day fiance proposed to me :)
@Liss13: I think it's weird that after 3 years he doesn't believe you about this. What makes him scoff when you say you don't care about it, especially after THREE YEARS? What does he do for Valentines day for you to "avoid a blow up" anyway?
It's obviously a hallmark holiday, but still I love any opportunity to celebrate love and FI. We're not great with holidays though...birthdays and Christmas we try to do up...and our favorite holiday is Halloween. But other than that we do cards and a sweet treat. I have to admit we give a lot of just because gifts throughout the year.
The ONLY reason I even remotly care about valentine's day is because it is our dating anniversary and that isn't even because FI was trying to be romantic, its just how it worked out, he planned on asking me to be in a relationship with him the next time we hung out and it just happened to be on valentine's day. If it wasn't for our anniversay I would treat it as a normal day and nothing else.
@Liss13: The only Valentine's Day I ever cared about was my first with ex (who was my first proper bf). I flew out a thousand miles just to be with him, but he preferred to spend the day flirting with his old friend while leaving me alone with a bunch of people I never met (his friends). End of the night random woman walks up to me and asks "Why are the two of you pretending that you don't have a relationship?" I literally had tears of humiliation in my eyes.
Needless to add, that cured me of VD for the rest of my life.
I like Valentine's Day and I would secretly like to be surprised with flowers and jewellery - but that just isn't what Mr DS is like! We use it as an excuse for a nice dinner (at home - I hate going out and spending over the odds for a totally average menu) and a bottle of Champers 
So basically, I don't care "a lot" about it but it's nice to do something.
I liked the holiday but didn't do anything crazy concerning it. My fiancé proposed 2 days before V-Day so now V-Day doesn't really mean that much.
Who cares if it's a Hallmark, capitalistic conspiracy holiday? It's an excuse to be nice to someone and I'll always play that game. Just because it's Valentines doesn't mean you HAVE to buy a card and a heart shaped box. You're allowed to celebrate in any way you'd like (or not). I wouldn't be distraught if I wasn't showered with gifts. But I still want to do something nice and make something of the day - not just let it pass by as an ignored holiday because I don't want to feed the "hallmark monster."
Hallmark holiday or not I like valentines day. Love is so precious and I love love so I love to celebrate it.
FI and I don't do much, he typically just gets me a card and candy which is PERFECT a day just to specifically say "I love you" the whole meaning of the day being love, I love it
I don't care about it at all really.. I hate knick knack crap so I don't want any teddy bears and I don't need a box of chocolates either......
I randomly picked a few days after VDAY to get married because it was the Sat of the long weekend of President's Day and that sounded good. EVERYONE thinks I picked the day because of VDAY... Um, no.
I don't care about Valentines Day at all. I think my husbad has gotten me 1 gift for Valentines day throughout my whole relationship. However, my husband is a huge gamer so I use Valentines Day as an excuse to get him off his game and cuddle on the couch while we watch a movie
I dont care about it and my husband believed me and loves that there's no stress to plan something for it. Even if I did care about 'Valentines Day' I'd assign it to like March 8th every year just to not deal with everyone else going out and jacked up flower prices for the day.
We don't even acknowledge Valentine's Day in our house and never have. Our first date was in February and that was always more important. Now that we're married, we still won't celebrate Valentine's Day.
@Liss13: I think if he tries to make it special for you, you should enjoy it lol.
Prices are marked up on V-Day so we don't do anything like buy roses or go out to a fancy place for dinner. We have our own silly little tradition - get burgers! :) lol. It's cheap and fun and we both love burgers. Works for us.
Valentines Baby here...
So I too have distinct feelings about this day.
BUT in my family it somehow made my Birthday all the more special. Because as a kid my Mom would do things like cut our toasts into Hearts. Bake cookies, etc. So there was Birthday Cake and lots of other stuff.
When I turned 16, it was my Dad who bought be my first bouquet of red roses... on Valentines Day
These memories are very precious to me.
When I was married the first time, my Ex-H used to combine the two occasions into one more often than not...
Usually spent at home... and typically about my Birthday
And YES they were great memories... but as a grown woman, I have to admit I did feel cheated out of the "romance side" of Valentines Day vs how other ladies got a day that was dedicated to romance from their guys.
When I met Mr TTR... he told me Valentines was in his opinion a "Hallmark Holiday"... and something he didn't celebrate... that he'd rather treat his LOVE well year-round, and make any day a special day without "a required reason" (lol, of course that was BEFORE I told him when my Birthday was)
In the 7 Years since I've known him... we've come to a sort of compromise. He celebrates my Birthday on MY DAY... often times we'll have a nice Dinner at home that he makes. And he'll surprise me with some flowers... sometimes a box of Valentines Chocolates (I usually get him a card, and some candy too)
Then at some point during the week (when the Valentine's Crowds aren't out full-force) we'll go out to Dinner and celebrate again... altho we don't typically say it is for my Birthday or Valentines... but "just because"
Hence the compromises... Flowers and Valentines Candy on My Birthday... and going out without a big to-do at some other point in the week. One makes me happy, the other him.
The compromise works for us... and I know I am loved and appreciated, like I have never been in my life by a man before (lol, 'cept for my Daddy when I was Sweet 16)
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EDIT TO ADD - I think Valentines is an "odd" holiday, because some folks celebrate it (think it important) while others do not. I think in a relationship you have to see "how the OTHER person feels about it" and go from there. I KNOW that Mr TTR would be unhappy if I was the kind of girl that wanted / needed Valentines to be all mushy. Cause mushy isn't his style. I do like niceties... I've just been able to appreciate MY MAN and what we have together, far more than what is written on a Hallmark Card or "pushed" by advertising.
@yanamari: I think hes half joking to be honest, not sure. It doesnt bother me. He joked the first year he was "waiting to get in trouble"
We joke around alot, and its not a real serious issue, I just let it slide. I think he worries that Ill be upset I didnt get acknowledged, and am trying to reverse-psychology him.
@throughthebarricades: he hasnt tried. cause I told him earlier I didnt care. He makes my birthday matter, makes the *important* holidays matter, and our anniversary. We always go somewhere and have a great anniversary, and I am more than satisfied.
I've always hated Valentine's day. My highschool BF and I always made it a point to not do anything. We'd not talk/text/call. It was actually kind of nice to just have a bubble bath day while all my guy friends were freaking out and all my girl friends were complaining that their SO's didn't do enough.
FI and I don't do anything unless we're invited. This year we might becaue the company doing the catering for our wedding is opening a new resteraunt around then and we might invite some people out.
@This Time Round: I can emapthise with that.
And I think thats why I dont care, because I dont want the 2 days smushed together. I want my birthday(and anyone elses birthday) made special. I care about these days so much, that I completely neglect V Day.
My mother and cousin are Christmas babies, and they always told me how they felt cheated. (They will NOT take a bday present if it is wrapped in Xmas paper. for example) And one of my exes and my anniversary was feb 16....he tried smushing all 3 into one, and I didnt like it
I can take or leave Valentines day. My daddy always got us flowers which was special but after our first V-day married ended in a total flop, I have decided I just don't care. I have the bday issue too, it goes my birthday, Christmas, our aniv all within two weeks. :/
@chasesgirl: see, you feel my pain. When we become engaged( decades from now, haha) I will make a point to pick a day seperate from our birthdays and anniversaries.
I don't NEED to celebrate it, but I've never been one of those people who look down on others who do or claim that it's "commercialized", etc. To me, I don't see the holiday as a negative thing. It's a holiday to celebrate love. Not just romantic love, but love in general. I understand there's the whole cupid thing, etc, but it doesn't HAVE to be all about that. I used to get Valentine's from my brothers and my dad as a kid. Or from my school friends. Or I'd take that time to show a little love for myself. It's cool with me. And I like the color pink. :)
You can choose to celebrate it. You can choose not to. But I feel those that choose not to go out of their way to try to ruin it for everybody else and it comes across as bitter. Like if you ask "Whatcha got planned for V-day." it turns into this whole tirade about how love should be celebrated everyday, and Hallmark created the holiday, and it's commercialized. Sigh. Just say "Nothing" and keep it moving! Yes, love should be shown everyday, but I take V-day as an acknowledgement, like stop what you're doing and love. I personally feel like everyday should be my birthday (lol) but that doesn't mean I'm not happy to be alive the other 364 days.
I really feel that way about other holidays too. You can make it what you want. For example, Christmas (I made the mistake of asking one of my co-workers how her holiday was and she went into the "commercialized" rant). Your Christmas doesn't have to be commercialized. It doesn't have to focus on gifts. Don't give gifts. Go to church, thank God for the birth of Jesus. Or just hang out with family. Or don't celebrate at all! Whatever!
I like the holiday because it's a celebration of love. It doesn't necessarily mean romantic love: i celebrate with my family and friends as well as my SO.
I like taking the time to celebrate my loved ones.
I like Valentine's day - but not in the romantic way. I like to celebrate it like we did as kids. I give out those kid valentine's to co-workers. I make my FI a homecooked meal (anything he wants) and find him something small and fun (last year it was custom M&M's).
PS - we are NOT getting married close to Valentine's day cause I like it. We are getting married that day cause the reception hall was booked the weekend after (our original date). :)
@Liss13: My birthday is February 15th. I'm in the same boat as you! DH's birthday is 7 days before mine, so luckily we are able to focus on birthdays rather than stupid valentine's day. Sometimes we'll make a nice dinner, but we don't make it a poing to go out or spend money on each other!
I get my FI chocolate or a handmade gift, he gets me a spa giftcard and dinner out. It's nice to be able to do something sweet. That's why we like it.
I like valentines day, but could care less if I get anything
I like Valentine's Day. The way I see it, it's not necessarily romantic, and sure it's commercialized, but have any of you heard of Sweetest Day, an October holiday celebrated in parts of the Midwest? That holiday was created to sell cards and candies, unlike Valentine's Day, which just developed into a Hallmark holiday over time.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sweetest_Day (I was trying to find a link that wasn't Wikipedia, but it was the least biased source I could find).
I'm kind of ambivalent towards Valentine's Day. If you and your SO agree beforehand that you're going to skip it, then skip it! Good for you! There's no reason to be forced into it if you don't want to. For me, I like the sentiment aspect too, so I'd like my SO to do or say something nice that day. That doesn't mean he has to buy me a gift. Maybe just do the dishes and tell me I'm special or something. That'd be enough for me.
Eh, no not really. We spoil each other throughout the year so we don't exchange for Vday or for Xmas. Or even birthdays sometimes.
@ChuckNorris: us too.
And Valentines Day was St. Valentines Day, a Christian feast day....people forget that alot too.
I think I care about it in the fact that my grandmother and I mail each other valentines day cards. Maybe FH and I will do something sweet for eachother like cook a nice and romantic meal... mainly because that date is significant to us (but not because its v-day.) I'm kind of on the edge of caring a little and not too much.
@Liss13: I'm glad that we are not alone! =) Everything thinks we are soo weird for doing that.
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my birthday is Feb 13, and as a child my parents/rest of my family definately made our day special for all of us grandkids/kids. Since I started dating, I made a point to make my boyfriends birthday noted enough, and *most* did the same for me. (I dont mean I need to be spoiled with alot of presents-I am NOT a princess, I just need the sentiment.
So because of that, Valentines Day being the next day, screw it. Its a commercialized holiday anyway, where no one celebrates it as the Christian Feast day it once was, and instead its a buy-expensive-crap-for-your-SO-day.
I told my SO when we started dating (April on 2010) I didnt care about Valentines Day, becasuse we celebrate our birthdays and anniversary with enough sentiment, he snorted at me. He still thinks on Feb 15 there is going to be a fight because of V-Day. Lol
Am I the only one who does not care about this day? Or am I a weirdo? Lol