About to be 3 years, he STILL doesnt believe I dont care about ValentinesDay

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you care about Valentines Day?
    Yes, it means alot to me to celebrate this : (23 votes)
    24 %
    No, I dont care : (42 votes)
    44 %
    I used to care, but I dont even notice it anymore : (7 votes)
    7 %
    I didnt use to care, but now it is important to me : (2 votes)
    2 %
    My SO cares about it more than I do : (6 votes)
    6 %
    What the heck is Valentines Day? : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Other, I'll explain below : (13 votes)
    14 %
  • Member
    1346 posts
    Bumble bee

    It’s your typical Hallmark holiday created to boost sales of things nobody needs. I do not care about Valentine’s Day at all.

    Member
    872 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I care about it, I think its fun. I would be upset if I didn’t receive anything.

    Member
    835 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I have a very, very strong hatred towards this day.  I kid you not, I celebrate on February 15th because that means I don’t have to hear about it again for another year. I have personal reasons, but I also believe the holiday is a load of crap that was designed for companies like Hallmark.

    My SO knows well enough now not to even say Happy Valentines Day to me haha.

    Member
    6644 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    It’s a hallmark holiday. I wouldn’t care if I recieved something or not. I’ll still buy my SO something — Candy, a little trinket, something. But I don’t care if it’s reciprocated. It’s just a day like any other day.

    Member
    278 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think it’s a cute holiday and I like to celebrate it but not go all out and make a fuss with expensive gifts and dates.  It’s just a nice way to let your sweetie know I love you.

    Member
    1917 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I don’t care about it in the sense that I would be devastated to not be showered with gifts on the day, but I would care if my fiance didn’t even notice. We don’t tend to spend lots of money on each other, we just take it as a day to consider how lucky we are to have each other.

    It’s also special, because it’s the day fiance proposed to me :)

    Member
    973 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Liss13:  I think it’s weird that after 3 years he doesn’t believe you about this. What makes him scoff when you say you don’t care about it, especially after THREE YEARS? What does he do for Valentines day for you to “avoid a blow up” anyway? 

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    3303 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It’s obviously a hallmark holiday, but still I love any opportunity to celebrate love and FI.  We’re not great with holidays though…birthdays and Christmas we try to do up…and our favorite holiday is Halloween.  But other than that we do cards and a sweet treat.  I have to admit we give a lot of just because gifts throughout the year.

    Member
    1524 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    The ONLY reason I even remotly care about valentine’s day is because it is our dating anniversary and that isn’t even because FI was trying to be romantic, its just how it worked out, he planned on asking me to be in a relationship with him the next time we hung out and it just happened to be on valentine’s day.  If it wasn’t for our anniversay I would treat it as a normal day and nothing else.

    Member
    443 posts
    Helper bee

    @Liss13:  The only Valentine’s Day I ever cared about was my first with ex (who was my first proper bf). I flew out a thousand miles just to be with him, but he preferred to spend the day flirting with his old friend while leaving me alone with a bunch of people I never met (his friends). End of the night random woman walks up to me and asks “Why are the two of you pretending that you don’t have a relationship?” I literally had tears of humiliation in my eyes. 

    Needless to add, that cured me of VD for the rest of my life. 

    Member
    348 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I like Valentine’s Day and I would secretly like to be surprised with flowers and jewellery – but that just isn’t what Mr DS is like! We use it as an excuse for a nice dinner (at home – I hate going out and spending over the odds for a totally average menu) and a bottle of Champers Wink So basically, I don’t care “a lot” about it but it’s nice to do something.

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    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I liked the holiday but didn’t do anything crazy concerning it. My fiancé proposed 2 days before V-Day so now V-Day doesn’t really mean that much.

    Member
    2923 posts
    Sugar bee

    Who cares if it’s a Hallmark, capitalistic conspiracy holiday? It’s an excuse to be nice to someone and I’ll always play that game. Just because it’s Valentines doesn’t mean you HAVE to buy a card and a heart shaped box. You’re allowed to celebrate in any way you’d like (or not). I wouldn’t be distraught if I wasn’t showered with gifts. But I still want to do something nice and make something of the day – not just let it pass by as an ignored holiday because I don’t want to feed the “hallmark monster.” 

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