(Closed) Absolutely awful wedding

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yikes. Difficult question. If I were the bride, I’d want to know who was being a jerk and made my guests so uncomfortable that they wanted to leave. But as a guest, I’d probably not want to make the bride feel bad by telling her something she can’t do anything about now.

 

 

Post # 4
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12569 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, I think lying to a friend is always wrong, but I also think it serves no purpose to tell her that you think her wedding was “absolutely awful.”  Do you think she actually noticed that you left after dinner?  Honestly, I didn’t notice when any of my guests left, unless they came up to say good night. 

Post # 5
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1592 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Ugh. It’s tough b/c you don’t want to upset her. It’s not like she’s going to do it again next year and she can plan better. But you also don’t want her to think you were the jerk. 

The rude guests…well that’s odd. But the buffet line, the reason you probably ultimately left, and the temperature, those were both kind of the “fault” of the bride and groom (or their parents). 

I might just say I had a stomach issue. 

Post # 6
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1496 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think I would just tell the bride that you had a long drive ahead of you but you were so happy to be there for her on her special day.   And leave it at that.  

 

but ugh, the whole thing sounded like a mess.  what an awkward wedding!!  (and who holds their ceremony and reception in a rec room of a nursing home?? who and why and all sorts of other good questions….)  

Post # 7
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199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

There is nothing the bride can do at this point, so it would just be criticism rather than constructive criticism to tell her.

If it comes up, just say it was the drive.  Honestly, it probably won’t come up, I’ve never had a bride grill me on why I left the time I did.  I think you probably want to get it off your chest because it sounds like a lousy way to spend an 8 hour round trip drive, but just vent here instead.

Post # 8
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4646 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Would she even ask why? If not, I wouldn’t even bring it up. In this case, I would absolutely tell her it was the drive or you had a headache or something. Telling her the wedding sucked is not going to accomplish anything. It’s not like she can really apologize for her guests shitty table seating manners… seriously, what was up with those people? -_-

Post # 9
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715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it is best to say nothing!  The bride only needs positive memories of her wedding.  It is over and there is nothing that can be done now…leave it alone. 

Post # 10
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11287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@jennygrl070:  she probably didn’t even notice that you were gone until much later if at all.  if it does come up, i wouldn’t give a time, just mention that you couldn’t stay too late due to the drive.

Post # 11
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4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I wouldn’t say anything, and to be honest if I was in the same situation and someone actually asked me why I’d left early, I would fib. In this case, I think it is best to give some sort of personal excuse than actually inadvertently insult the bride, her wedding or her other guests. 

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