Post # 1
My fiance and I decided with 6 weeks to go that we would abstain from any intimate activities (other than hugs and kisses) until the big day. We thought this might be an interesting way to heat things up the night of. We will be so excited to be married and so excited to be intimate again….
Has anyone else done this/doing this?
Are we crazy?
Post # 3
There was no way we could have done that. From what I’ve heard, it doesn’t really do anything to make the night any more special. But, to each their own. Our wedding night was still amazing even tho we were together the night
Post # 4
@JenuineMulder: You’re my date twin! And yes, we are trying to abstain, Fiance more than me. I really don’t think I’m going to be able to hold out…but good luck to you!
Post # 5
i am trying to abstain Few months—future hubby aint having it though
Post # 6
I hadn’t seriously thought about it but jokinly brought it up to Fiance and he did not like the idea at all. I don’t really think it would make much of a difference for us and seems silly since we already live together. It will still be special since we are officially married then.
Post # 7
my Fiance jokes about this all the time, says we should start now (wedding is a year away) ! i do think we will abstain for a month or two before the wedding though…
Post # 8
I don’t see the point since we’re already having sex, but more power to those of you with more self-control. ;D
Post # 9
Wow that is a LONG time!! Actually we sort of did the opposite. With 55 days to our wedding we tried to do it everyday! However, this didnt really work out. It worked for the first couple of weeks, but then we just got so busy!! Then we were back to our normal schedule…but then we ended up abstaining for a little less than a week before our wedding because we were SO SO busy! We drove down to Georgia and stayed at my ILs house and since we were running around all day we would just fall asleep when we got back! The wedding night was AWESOME because of this – because it had been so long for us and we were both so charged from that AND from just getting married!!!
PS – dont understand why you would not have sex on your wedding night! Apparently its something like 50% of newlyweds do not have sex on their wedding night! I understand they say this is what the honeymoon is for but do it on your wedding night!!! I had some sexy lingerie so I just went into the bathroom, got out of my dress and put that on and came out. Then right after we went to sleep. So worth it!
Post # 10
We dont plan on it, its deff not for us.
Post # 11
hahaha we are doing this….but not because we really want to! I am sick, I get my period the week before the wedding, and we work crazy hours and we are sleeping when the other is awake…..
Post # 12
I’m curious to see how long we can hold out. I think we can make it. I think it will also be nice for us to focus on other aspects of our relationship other than just the intimate one. With all the stress of the wedding hitting us, it will be nice to talk through everything rather than just run to the bedroom and potentially avoid the topic all together!
Good luck to those of you who are trying!!
Post # 13
We’ve discussed this and try to…then we forget haha!
Post # 14
Personally, I don’t see the point. I think being married is reason enough for the night to be special. Especially if you’ve already been having sex.
But hey, if that’s what you want to do, who is anywhere here to say it’s crazy?
Post # 15
@JenuineMulder: I’m jealous that you only did it for 6 weeks! My fiance and I decided to do pre-marital counseling with our pastor and one of the “rules” when we signed up for it was to abstain until the wedding night. That was in April!! Almost 6 months! Needless to say, we have been counting down the months/weeks till the wedding! 3.5 more weeks….
Post # 16
@AbbyDabbyDoodleBug: Ok, you win! You are one brave soul! I’m sure our priest would have loved if we decided that too, but not a chance!
Good luck to you!