Abstinence in your 30s?

posted 2 years ago in Christian
Post # 2
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

2ndTimeForWe:  I’m a Christian as well, and I totally understand what you are going through. You gotta take it one day at a time.  Don’t put yourselves in situations where you can slip. November is just a couple months away. Maybe you can move it up to August or September? You don’t need the ring to start planning, because really, you are already engaged.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  Bridey77.
Post # 4
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - The Villa

2ndTimeForWe:  I’m giggling a little at your situation because is the exact opposite of me and my SO (we’re only 28 though) and we’ve never been married but we have a daughter and he has a son from a previous relationship. He is a new convert although he has been dabbling in Christianity his whole life. After we started wedding counseling in January we agreed that Christ was first and thusly, sex wasn’t a thing we could indulge. However, due to us having a daughter we live together. It is a lot easier for me than it is for him. He struggles. I pray with him and try not to put him in situations that would “rev” his engine. But he’s a man, so it doesn’t take much… honestly speaking… it’s hard for me too. But not in the I’m full of lust way… but it’s hard for me to see him truly sad. I  mean I want to give him the world, but my relationship w/ Christ is first.

Occupying your time together w/ activities is a way to keep your mind/thoughts off of what you aren’t getting and honestly download a bible app. Whenever you feel the urge, just read a scripture. Remember why you are committed to the cause in the first place. One day at a time is the best advice… November is but a few short months away and then you can look back and what you were able to do and know that God has got your back through anything. *applause* to you on no faltering, wish I could say the same!

Post # 5
39 posts
  • Wedding: April 2015

I would receomend to not put yourselfs in situations that will tempt you. Keep busy. I and FI are holdign off for sex until we get married. It is a challenge, just keeping mind off thoughts.

Post # 6
3136 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m a christian but I dont actually believe in abstinence as a way to show my love for God. I pray and I have faith but I’m not of the belief that having sex is a bad or wrong thing to do out of wedlock. I peronally think engagement is enough to allow yourselves sexual contact. 

Post # 7
8678 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

This thread is 9 months old and she said they were getting married in November 2014… I’d imagine this isn’t much of a problem for them anymore.

Post # 8
17 posts
  • Wedding: May 2009

2ndTimeForWe:  I just read your post, you & your  FI or Husband should be commended for your patience and integrity,  this is not only going to make your relationship much better because you both will have in mind that we were patient for being obedient to God,  and you better believe blessings will come your way for that (Psa 84:11)! 

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 4 months ago by  BroDavid718.
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