Post # 1
The weekend my mom and I went and checked out our reception location, I told my FMIL about it and showed her some pictures. I filled her in on all the details of catering costs, etc. and she said, “That seems really expensive.” (It’s actually not- it’s a well known restaurant, but I don’t think it’s a well-known reception location, and the cost of having our reception catered there is literally thousands less than the other venus I looked at- like up to $20,000 cheaper in one case.) I told her I didn’t think it was, and for what we get vs. what we pay, it’s a REALLY good deal, and then she said, “Well, I guess it’s just that in our family, we’re used to making all the food for our own weddings and parties, so I guess it just seems like a lot to me.”
Uh oh! It seemed almost like she was confused about why I hadn’t asked the family to make the food for the reception, but honestly, it wouldn’t have occurred to me do that because I’d have seen it as putting too much of a burden on them or taking advantage of them. In my mind, they are guests at my wedding and I don’t expect them to do WORK for me! I thought I was doing the right thing, but I may have inadvertently hurt her feelings.
Have any of you also made these accidental “My Bad”s?
Post # 3
I have one that’s kind of funny and totally awkward…
I grew up in a crazy holiday loving family. My mom taught pre-school so she was crafty and every holiday was full done and fantastic. My sister (MOH) and I are the same exact way as adults. Making costumes for halloween, doing themed Christmas trees, I even send handmade V-day cards out! So when my sister and I were discussing the shower she suggested Halloween which I think is fantastic! She found invitations that are tastefully which themed and is throwing an appetizer and martini party with the martini’s in halloween colors with themed names. She purchased the most amazing cake which is a giant cupcake with a huge friendly looking spider on it. My sis sent the invites out last week, well guess what? Forgot that one side of the FI’s fam is Jehovah Witness’ and they don’t celebrate holidays. What a way to alienate 25% of the guests!
Post # 4
I would feel like it was putting a burden on them too. I dont even want to ask friends or family help with anything. (I hope they offer though). But maybe she wants to feel included by helping. Your FMIL sounds sweet.
@mwitter80 gosh how embarrassing but you meant well. I hope they understood it was an accident. But that story is really funny as long as no one was offended. All the work you put into the party too.
I dont have an embarrassing story yet bc my wedding planning is just beginning, 9 months to go, but I probably will eventually.
Post # 5
She is. She’s a total bad ass. By far the best family member I am inheriting via my fiance.