Accidentally Emailed FI my wedding dress….DEVASTATED.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

=[ Oh no!

Just remember that you’ll look AMAZING with your hair/makeup done.. he won’t even remember the picture he saw!

Post # 4
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1397 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My husband was with me for all parts of picking out my wedding dress and for alterations, however, on our wedding day with the veil, shoes, make up and hair he was still in shock with the whole package.  Your guy will be as well.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Oh dear. I know this is so terribly upsetting right now, but I can tell you that I highly doubt that he will even remember what the dress looks like, let alone any of the special details on the back! My fiance is convinced that all wedding dresses look exactly the same! When he sees YOU in it for the first time, that will be what matters! I know it feels awful right now, but I really believe he will still have a genuine reaction of shock and awe when he sees how stunning you look in it! I’m sure he will have forgotten about it entirely in the meantime!

Post # 6
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1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh no, sorry! That sucks.

Maybe he will forget? I purposely showed my fiance my wedding dress and he forgot what it looked like a few weeks later…

Post # 7
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8706 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My husband saw my dress when we flew to our wedding. I refused to have it go through the xray scanner (Multiple reasons) and they opened it up to scan it for drugs/explosives/whatever.

He stood there beside me and watched them do it. He looked at me and said “Nice.”

It’s one thing to see the dress. It’s another to see you, in said dress, walking towards him. 

Post # 8
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245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I know it sucks… my husband saw my wedding dress on WeddingBee ( be careful ladies!) but let me tell you — men don’t have the memory or eye for detail. He would have pretty much said ” it is white?” when I asked ( and he wasn’t just trying to make me feel better) it will look totally different at your wedding. And eve better than what he thinks he saw ( But i promise he didn’t study it!) 

Post # 9
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s really not a big deal. He won’t even remember, it will look different in person and it will be totally different when you’re all done up on your actual wedding day.

My husband saw tons of pics of me in my dress before our wedding. He couldn’t remember at all the day of, even said it looks so much different then the pictures!  He said that seeing pictures beforehand didn’t ruin anything about the moment he first saw me in my dress on our wedding day.

Post # 10
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1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

Pictures will never compare to the real thing.  Chances are he’ll have forgotten any of the major details of the dress by the wedding anyways.  Don’t fret!

Post # 11
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84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@crackktheskyy:  +1.  I know this seems devestating right now and of course it’s upsetting!  But honestly, if he’s anything like ‘most men,’ he has no understanding of what he was looking at (if that makes sense). He may have seen the dress, but has no idea about the details and how you will actually look on your wedding day.  I’m so sory that this happened to you but I think it will be okay! 

Post # 12
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8593 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh, he probably won’t remember it anyway.  At least, mine would have forgotten in a span of a few months.

It’s ok, stuff like this happens sometimes.  It will be different when you’re actually all dressed up with hair and makeup and jewelry, nothing to cry over.

Post # 13
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1926 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Meant2Bee:  Seeing a model in a dress is not going to be the same thing as seeing YOU in it. No worries, it will still be total magic. And men don’t tend to remember too many details anyway, he probably just remembers that it is some shade of white! Lol!

Post # 14
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1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Meant2Bee:  Aww.. you poor thing 🙁 I have been so afraid that FI would find a pic of my dress. That’s not cool. ‘

Seriously though, I am sure he’ll forget about it in a day! Make sure you tell him not to look at it anymore and delete the email.

Seeing a photo of the dress WILL NOT compare to how you look wearing it on the day. Try not to be too bummed out. There will still be a great element of surprise on the day of.

Post # 15
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9531 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’ll be fine! You’ll look totally different on wedding day when you’re all dolled up. And he’s a guy. He won’t remember anything other than “white dress” anyway. Have you seen the suit he will wear? Does that make it less special for you to see him on wedding day? Trust me, it’ll be awesome and this isn’t worth stressing about!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

There is no way he’ll remember a quick glance at the back of your dress 3 months from now.

I honestly don’t think my FI could tell me what the dress I showed him yesterday while shopping for a friend’s wedding looked like. His response would probably be “Short and kind of orange with little sleeves”. and he saw me in it for a solid 3 minutes while I decided if it was right for me or not.

And like others have said, he’s never seen the front (aka the part he’ll see when he first sees you for the wedding) and he’s never seen you in it in real life all pretty and done up on your wedding day.

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