Post # 1
So a few weekends ago my Maid/Matron of Honor was in town and we went out for some drinks. A few drinks later, we decided what weekend to have my shower & bach party, and I texted a few college friends telling them what the date of that weekend was so they could plan to be here. I quickly found out that I had accidentally included a girl, M, that I didn’t mean to. We are not inviting M to our wedding, and therefore I did not want to invite her to my bach. party.
I hung around with M mostly during my senior year in college, but I have known her since my freshman year because we lived on the same floor. She’s pretty crazy and oftentimes lacks manners and is a pretty sloppy drunk. I’m not good friends with her and never have been, though we were often together in college because we had many mutual friends. Anyway, I do not want to invite her to anything wedding related, but I’m afraid now because she got the text message regarding the date of my wedding shower/bach weekend.
I haven’t included her on my official list and I do not have her address, so she will not be getting an actual invite from my Maid/Matron of Honor.
What should I do? Should I just ignore it and pretend like it didn’t happen? She has texted me once about it and I just haven’t responded. I feel terrible but at the same time we really aren’t close.
Post # 3
Did she reply that she would go to your bach party? If she says yes… then I’m not sure what you should do… but if she can’t make it, than I wouldn’t worry about sending her an invite to the wedding. If she asks about it later, explain that you invited too many people & now you are over your max.
Post # 4
If it were me and she showed up to my bach party, I still would not invite her to my wedding. I know it is rude, but if you do not want her there then she shouldn’t be there. Maybe text her back and let her know that you wedding is limited to your closest family and friends, but would love to have her come celebrate your bach party if she is up for a girls night. I have been invited to Bach parties of girls who did not invite me to their wedding. I wasn’t hurt and didn’t feel offended. I am having a few girls at my party this weekend who were not invited to my wedding. They are all okay with it as far as I know. We are doing a small Destination Wedding, so they were okay with it….of course they are my really close friends so they knew and understood the situation.
Hopefully she won’t show up to the bach party and you can forget about it.
Post # 5
I know it was an honest mistake, but if she decides to attend the shower and bachelorette party, she really should be invited to your wedding. Either that or you can explain to her that you didn’t mean to send her that text/not invite her to the wedding, but either of those options will come off as rude.
Post # 6
If you really don’t want her to go, and if you aren’t really that close, then just be honest with her:it was a mistake. Mistakes do happen, and if you’re not great friends with her now anyways then you don’t really have much to lose by telling her it was accident. If you’re not comfortable saying it was you who did it, maybe say it was your Maid/Matron of Honor grabbed your phone and sent a message to people? Apolgoize for the miscommunication, wish her well, and move on.