(Closed) accidentally left brother out; how can we involve him?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Who is escorting your mom down the aisle? He could do that.  

He could also be an usher in general, to help get everyone seated.  He could be the one who formally announces you when you enter your reception. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

Can you add a reading? 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Would it be possible to have two people “share” a reading? i.e. if one of your readings is a little long, they could each read half?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

My sister is my MOH, but she isn’t 18 yet, so I’m having my brother who is of age sign our license as a witness :]

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What about a reading or a toast?  I had a friend who a family member welcome the guests to the wedding- it wasn’t a full reading exactly more like “Welcome to Wedding of Jane Smith and John Doe.  They want to extend their thanks to all who joined them in celebrating this special day.  “quote about love or marriage”. Then the officiant took over for the rest of the ceremony.

Or you could make him a master of ceremonies for the reception- He would be responsible for introducing each person giving a toast, announcing first dance, cake cutting, etc.   

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@nikkialys:  We did this – made my brother MC.  He did a great job, much better than having a DJ do it.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

what about having your brother (and one other person) bring the gifts to the alter?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@greenmachine838:  Sorry if I wasn’t clear.  We hired a dj as well.  He played the music, however, we asked my brother to do all of the announcements so we would avoid a “cheezy dj” factor and because we wanted a personal touch.  My family has a military background though, so for us it was natural to have someone “important” who “presides” over the event (in a different way than a wedding planner who fades to the background).  He gave a more personal introduction to us, to the toasts, to cake cutting, to the anniversary dance we dedicated to my parents (their 40th anniversary) than any hired vendor could do.  Totally fine if this doesn’t work for you, I just wanted to be very clear why hiring a DJ does not make it inapplicable.

We also had two ushers, in addition to our groomsmen, because my DH didn’t want to leave out two close friends.  They helped organize/make things run smoothly and seat people.

Not much else I can think about besides guest book attendant, and that one always makes me cringe a little because it never seems like fun/an honor.  Ask him to drive you two from the church?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If it were me I would ask him to make a toast and ask him to sign as a witness on the liscense.

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