Accommodating a Disability in the Wedding Party

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I think it would be fine, as long as the Best Man agrees to this.  I’ve been to a wedding where this happened- the Best Man was up with the groom, and the MOH walked in solo.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Alyx19:  It used to be standard practice and it is still very common  here for the groom, all the groomsmen and the officiant to enter from the side door at the front of the church and not take part in the processional at all.

If you really think the BM’s need an escort, carry on with your plan. Otherwise you could have all the men stand at the front.

Post # 5
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Wannabee

It is your wedding and you can make the plans exactly how you wish.

 

Uneven processions are fine. If you happen to have a family member to escort, then do that. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

In Australia all the groomsmen stand up front with the groom waiting for the bridesmaids/bride to arrive. The women all process solo and this always works fine so I can’t see a problem with you doing this.  It may not be the normal practice in your area like it is here but there’s nothing wrong with it!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Im in a wheelchair myself. Things like this can be a bid awkward. I would ask your FH best man what he wants to do as you don’t want to make feel uncomfortable. Some people can be sensitive when it comes to their ailments. However I don’t think it would be awkward if he was already up there with your man. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Alyx19:  I was going to say exactly what Lollybags:  said. (It’s the UK tradition too: if you watched the royal wedding you would have seen the best man (Prince Harry) waiting at the altar with the groom (Prince William)). There’s nothing wrong with the USA tradition but there is a good reason to have one or more groomsmen waiting at the altar with the groom: because they are in the wedding party to support the groom. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Often BM walk in alone while the GM are up there with the groom. – it’s not terrible, it’s normal.  I did that, it’s even logical for me, it’s an introduction of the bride, that the GM’s have nothing to do with.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Alyx19:  Where I am from, it is pretty common for the groomsmen to be up front with the groom and the bridesmaids walk down the aisle unescorted. But I think it is important to ask the best man for his opinion on what he would feel most comfortable with. 

Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It’s acceptable to do whatever you need to do to accomodate your bridal party, in my opinion, or anyone else who needs it.  No one is going to frown on the best man being present at the front already, and if they do- screw them!  Honestly, equiquette has to go out the window sometimes in place of common sense and decency. 

We will have 8 guests in attendance who are deaf, and will be sitting in special reserved seats at the front to see the interpreter.  Isn’t it common practice to save the front row for close family?  Well, who cares!   

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

we had all the groomsmen come in with the groom and bridesmaid walked by themselves. In fact I’ve never been to a wedding where groomsmen and bridesmaids walked in together.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

Alyx19:  i suppose if everyone agrees to this, then feel free to do it.  my brother has spina bifida and although he can walk short distances, he mostly uses a manual wheelchair to get around.

for us, it was important for the place to be 100% accessible.

my brother was one of my bridal attendants (since we didn’t call him a bridesmaid).  i gave him the choice of walking or wheeling down the aisle.  he wanted to walk, but we had a chair at the alter for him to sit.

here’s a picture of my brother and i dancing:

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Sounds good to me. We only had a best man, no groomsmen, and my three maids walked up and back on their own. It worked well for us.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I also want to mention that an entirely wheelchair accessible venue was at the top of our list when we were planning. We only had one person who is almost entirely wheelchair bound, but we had a few people with limited mobility who walk with a cane or walker. It took ages to find a place, but it was well worth it because everyone we love was able to participate comfortably and conveniently.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Alyx19:  Its fairly normal to have the girls walk in alone and the guys already at the alter. This is NBD. You have thought of how he will leave the wedding ceremony also though right?

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