Weddingbee boards

Yeah, the Knot is sort of the vain of my existence. I don't even know why I go there anymore, everytime I visit the site, it just gives me an obnoxiously long list with red alarm clocks telling me how behind I am in planning.  Grr... But I go anyway because I've been tired of thinking about my wedding for months and at least a list online gives my FH and I something to go by (he's super involved too, I love it)

i use the knot a lot and i agree that on some of the international boards, the majority of the opinons posted are similar because people who have different ideas dont feel comfertable posting. using the knot, i have never seen buffets, open seating or no alcohol called trashy. the dollar dance is tacky in my opinion, unless it is a tradition in your family/culture, and then, i think the money should go to charity.

my wedding is buffet, with pastic silverware and linens, open seating and dry until the after party. we arent having a cash bar or dollar dance because i dont want my guests to have to pay money for anything. the RD will be take and bake pizza at my house after rehearsing. we dont want to spend a boat load of money on the rd.

the only 1 wedding i went to that had a dollar dance, the bride danced with like 4 people, how lame? what a waste of energy for $4! im from the northwest, and the dance was so unheard of to me, that i seriously thought it was greedy, and more of a way to get money than a tradition.

I am Polish Catholic marrying a Polish Catholic in Western PA, so needless to say, we will be having a dollar dance.  I have seen different variations of the dollar dance, but how we do it is that whoever wants to dance pays a dollar (or whatever they want), get a shot (of either schanapps or whiskey, poured by one of the wedding attendants or the bartender) on the dance floor, and then dance with either the bride or the groom.  Part of the fun also is folding up the money into tiny little shapes that make it a challenge for the bride and groom to unfold.

I definitely admit it sounds kind of tacky; BUT when everyone knows what it is, expects it, and participates, I don't think its a big deal.  It is more odd to not have one in my area.

I am from Central Pennsylvania (the wonderful and unique coal region) and I will be having a family style dinner (where there is a bowl of green beans and plates of meat passed around the table).  I am having 300 guests and I think it adds a family feel to the reception.  And the bonus side is that people don't have to indicated their choice on the RSVP months ahead of time, that day they get to choose what they want or even get both meats.  More formal wedding I have been to have always been plated.  

I will definitely be chicken dancing and doing the hokey pokey!  I can also say that I will also be doing the Polka at least once.   Also, I will spend hours unfolding money from the dollar dance.  Often in my family people contribute much more than a dollar to the dollar dance, they figure it in as part of their wedding gift although there is no way of telling who put in what amount of money.  The idea behind paying money for a dance with the bride/groom is two fold.  1.  It gets you a few moments alone with the bride/groom to have a one on one conversation. 2. The cash is for the couple to use on their honeymoon.  When dollar dancing with people everyone will smell like peach schnapps or whiskey because they have the choice of a pack of gum or a shot when they pay for the dance.  There is something to be said about tradition.  I don't think it's tacky, a little silly but fun.