(Closed) Acessory requirements as a BM? Ive never heard of that before

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I requested that all of my girls wear the same color shoes (They have different colored dresses, I just thought it would kind of tie things together).  I don’t really care what they wear jewelry-wise though.

Post # 4
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

whatever the bride or bridezilla says goes honey! end of story! lol

Post # 5
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’ve only ever heard of this if the bride was gifting the jewelry. Is that what you’re talking about?  

Post # 6
3121 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This doesn’t seem too over the top for me.  Silver it is!

Post # 7
3697 posts
Sugar bee

In my experience, usually if a bride wants very specific, matching jewelry, she gives it to the bridesmaids as their gift at the rehearsal dinner …?

I don’t think that requesting silver and not gold, or vice-versa, is too out of line, though. She still left the actual jewelry up to you, right?

Post # 8
11 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

I gave my bridesmaids similar accessory guidelines (and have been given them as a bridesmaid).

At my wedding the girls wore long black strapless dresses, and I gave them the guideline to wear white metal earrings of any style. One wore studs, the other 3 wore chandelier earrings. I had also instructed them not to wear a watch/necklace, or bracelet, and to wear black shoes of their choice.

Anything super specific (these exact shoes, jewelry, etc.), I agree, should be gifted by the bride!

Post # 9
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think most of the time if there is a “requirement” for jewelry to be the same, the bride gives these as her gift to her BMs. Obviously that isn’t always the case, but I’ve never heard it not done that way. 

Post # 10
3121 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

At least she’s not asking you to buy something new!

Post # 11
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

I’ve heard of this, a lot, but didn’t require it myself.  I bought each Bridesmaid or Best Man a bracelet that they each wore.  Necklaces and earrings were up to them.  I also bought their shoes, so they all matched.  Their dresses were same color, different style.

Post # 12
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

When I was in my SILs wedding, we were told to wear black shoes and gold jewelry. My sister and I had just sold all of our gold at one of thowe “sell your gold” parties, so that was funny timing.

Post # 14
1481 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my best friend, and she went crazy with the specifics! She made us all have our hair a certain way, a specific bracelet and earrings, the same exact dress, the same exact shoes (she didn’t know where to get them btw she just said she wanted this kind lol). I do have to cut her some slack because she was pregnant at the time and way hormonal, BUT it just seems like a lot of added stress to make sure all the BMs are matchy matchy (there were 8 of us). On the plus side, though, I now know a general idea of what I’m doing and not doing at my wedding haha.

Post # 15
3982 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I bought my girls necklaces and earrings to wear the day of and keep as part of their gift. I didn’t demand that they buy their own.

Post # 16
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ll be buying the jewelery for my girls.  I don’t think it’s that crazy to ask you to wear silver instead of gold or vice versa.

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