- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
This morning I got another just LOVELY email from my mother – this time letting me know she will only be contributing another $XXX to the wedding – as opposed to paying for all the dinners.
In recent weeks it’s gone from giving us an amount that would cover EVERYTHING including all the vendors to just paying for ‘dinner for whoever shows up’ in her words.
Ok, fine. It sucked, but I knew we could make it work. FI closed out an old savings account so we knew we’d be ok and life moved on.
Now I don’t know what to do! We have a month to go before the wedding, and we’re expecting about 120 guests (an estimate since we’re still waiting on 54 people’s replies).
The money my mom now says she’s be contributing will cover the ballroom rental fee (which is half of HALF of the regular fee)… the ceremony fee (again, half of half of regular) and the taxes on those, plus about 100 people’s worth of dinner.
Leaving FI and I to cover 20 dinners, cocktail reception food (which at this point looks to be none which makes me sick), any beverages we wish to offer, and all of our vendors.
OH MY GOD.
To make it more complicated – I am the wedding sales manager for the venue we are being married at. We chose it because my mom wanted a ‘real’ wedding and offered us $XXXXX money to do it at the Hotel. She invited quite a few family that I would never have, but it was ok… she was paying to feed them.
Our general manager/owner is out of town, but when he comes back I need to talk to him and see if I can a) get soft drinks included for the evening. b) run a special on one kind of beer so I can pay a lower price since by law here you can not discout alcohol… but you CAN price it at whatever you want… c) give me further discounts on the overnight guestroom for me for the night before the wedding and the 2 nights i’m paying for for our photographers. and d) show some mercy and give me 60 or 90 days to pay off the balance on our account.
I was really hoping we’d be able to offer a few passed hors d’oeurves and a cheese/veggie display and cover beer/wine for cocktail hour.
Ack the stress. So I get that message from my mom, crunch some numbers and immediately start to tear up uncontrollably which is TOTALLY noticeably becuse I’m super pale and my face gets all red. THen my phone rings, a father of a bride that may be bookinga short term/shotgun wedding had walked in with a list of questions he was supposed to ask and pictures to take.
Y’all… as much as it was annoying to have this guy just walk in, I was SO glad that he was overly, annoyingly asking questions because it helped me ignore the stress of MY wedding for a moment.
I have never broken down like that in my entire career.
I am so scared we’re going to have a totally cash bar wedding with no cocktail reception food because my mom’s nutso.
PHEW! Thank you for the vent!!!!