Acknowledging early gifts from people who can't attend?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Send the thank you card as soon as you get the gift whether they still come or not.

Then after the honeymoon, you can decide to send them a “designed” one or not with the others. 

Post # 3
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - City Winery New York, NY

Send a thank you note on any stationary you have. It doesn’t have to cooridnate with anything.

Post # 4
2169 posts
Buzzing bee

AvaG:  I would send a thoughtful thank you note as soon as possible on any stationery that you have. It’s much more important for these people to know that you appreciate their gifts and thoughtfulness and well-wishes in a timely manner than it is for the thank you cards to coordinate with the invites. 

Post # 5
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

MrsTtoB:  +1

We already had the thank you cards before the wedding since we didn’t use  apic of us, but as soon as we received a gift, we sent a thank you. It was great becuase I wasn’t stressing over a ton of thank you’s to write all at once. I got 20-30 out of the way right away.

Post # 7
3643 posts
Sugar bee

I usually order and send off the registry, if that person/their parents gave a boxed gift to my daughters, or send a check, if mine received the same, as soon as I receive the invitation. If it’s a monetary gift, I figure it would help the couple out, with their expenses. 

I did this in early April, when I received an invitation, to a mid-July wedding. I saw the couple the end of August, and they apologized for not sending a thank you, but they were “waiting for photos.”

It’s now 5 months since I ordered the gift. I know it was received, because I got a confirmation e-mail, but I am re-thinking my philosophy. 

We had a big blow-out this year, concerning the lack of courtesy, in my husband’s family. You can never do some things too early. 


Post # 8
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I’m in a similar situation where one guest won’t be able to make the wedding (in Jan) so bought a gift off our registry. While I can see what was bought we won’t actually receive it until after the wedding in a bulk delivery. Send a card now or later once received? 

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