Post # 1
My fiance’s parents have been divorced since he was 2. His mother and step-dad are paying for the rehearsal, my parents are paying for the wedding/reception, and the groom’s father is paying the bar bill. My father will be doing his welcome speech and said he really wants to mention the groom’s father’s contribution to the reception; he obviously doesn’t want to take “credit” for everything. Any good suggestions on how to work this into his speech? If we’re doing that we need to acknowledge his mother and step-dad somehow too.
My dad has never met the groom’s father and he’s only briefly met the groom’s mother and step-father, so it can be thoughtful but obviously not too personal, since they don’t know each other, but something “fun” would be okay. I appreciate all your suggestions and how you handled acknowledging everyone in general and for their contributions. I also read about people doing a grooms speech but I’ve actually never seen that before, and I don’t think we were planning on that; we were thinking of saying something at the rehearsal.
Post # 2
I think he mum and step dad will be thanked and recognised at the rehearsal dinner by you or whoever is making a speech.
Your dad could always say something like “Now I hope you are all having fun and make sure you drink up because (FI’s dad) is paying hahaha”. Or if that wouldn’t go down well in your crowd a simple, “On behalf of (you and FI) my wife and I would like to thank (FI’s dad) for helping us throw this fantastic celebration. And I hope everyone enjoyed the wonderful rehearsal dinner last night graciously hosted by (step dad and mother)”. you don’t have to go into too much detail about who payed for what, just a thank you will do just fine.
Are you giving presents to your parents? That is also a nice way to recognise them.
Post # 3
I find it a little weird to bring up who paid for what at the reception. How about letting each parent say a few words?
Post # 4
“On behalf of myself and Sullybear’s Mom, Alice; Mr Sullybear’s Mom Betty and her husband Charlie; and Mr Sullybear’s Dad Dave, thank you for coming and we hope you have a very pleasant evening”
It’s clunky, but family is clunky!
Post # 5
CurlyCue: I’m not saying you have to get into specifics, that seems a little odd I agree, but if someone contributed to the reception and my dad doesn’t say anything at all he feels like he’s taking credit for everything when he stands up to make his speech. I shouldn’t make assumptions without checking with them, but I don’t see his parents wanting to say something at the reception.
Everdeen: We do intend to give gifts and talk at the rehearsal, so yes we will recognize his mom and step dad then, but she is very sensitive (especially about paying for things and not being able to contribute more!) so I think mentioning dad and not her at the reception would be upsetting. I was thinking something funny along those lines, like “and all you with a drink in your hand can all thank mr sullybear’s dad” but don’t know how that would go over. Still specific without being direct. Maybe we will just work all the thank you’s into the rehearsal time and say something simple at the wedding as SarahLulu: suggests. Clunky, but still simple and covers everyone.