Bees, here’s the deal, I’m feeling very insecure, and hoping you could help me feel better?
I’m 22 years old, soon to be a collge graduate (and certified middle school teacher!), and counting down the days until I marry the man of my dreams.
BUT.. I’m only 5’0” tall, and because of my very poor complexion, I’m incredibly insecure. I get deep cysts, I always have a few pimples on my face (plus lots of little bumps), and my skin is never even. I photoshop EVERY photo to remove my acne. I just wish I could look normal!
If I’m at the bar ordering a drink, I can always feel judgmental eyes looking at me “is she even old enough to be in here?” Sometimes when I’m teaching.. I’m jealous of my students who have better skin than me! Yikes! THEY’RE the ones going through puberty!
Have any bees gone through this? Most of the time I can hold my head high, but other times it drags me down How do you deal?
@OnceUponATime: Have you seen a dermatologist? If you haven’t, you really really should. The longer you put it off (if you are putting it off), the worse it’ll be for your scars and self esteem. Hopefully a good derm can help. It may take some time to find the right combination of treatments for you, but I am sure your acne can be controlled.
Have you considered Accutane? I know it’s a bit controversial but it has worked wonders for many people.
I would love to see a dermatologist, but it is so so expensive, especially in our little rural area where there is ONE dermatologist in the county. I just don’t know what to do! I’m not sure mine is severe enough for accutane anyways. Mine is more moderate than heavy. A friend did bring me an entire botte of prescription acne medication (I know, I know you shouldn’t take someone else’s prescription!) but it didn’t help anyways. lol
At 26, my skin still isn’t clear, if I don’t wash my face at least 1x every other day I will breakout, not a lot but usually like one bad bigass pimple. For me, going on ortho tri cylcen birth control pills about 10 years a go was a real lifesaver for me and I use a combo of proactiv and a neutrogena face cream at night. It’s really about finding a good routine that works for you since everyone’s skin is different.
I second going to the derm, they can work wonders for you.
@OnceUponATime: You should save up to see the dermatologist. I am serious. When I do get the occasional breakout (and sometimes i pick at blackheads and make the situation worse – bad I know), my confidence is LOW. I feel like if my skin is bad, it doesn’t matter how nice my outfit or hair is… all I see is bad skin. I think that seeing a derm is a much better investment than buying a new pair of shoes or trying another 10 skincare products that won’t work.
A derm will assess whether your case is severe enough for Accutane or not. Cystic acne is pretty serious stuff, though. There are other meds out there too.
I really encourage you to see a derm – it’ll make a world of difference!
ETA: Acne is stubborn and you may not see results right away, but it can be controlled with the right combo of topical and oral meds.
@OnceUponATime: I went through the same thing in college and my early 20′s. I’m 27 now and I still break out every month before my period, but it’s way more manageable. Besides seeing a dermatologist (which I did, but I don’t like using prescriptions for very long), 2 things really helped me:
1) Switching my makeup to Bare Minerals foundation. It boosted my confidence sooo much just by covering up my acne better and making me worry less about how I looked. It also helped clear up my skin a little bit because it doesn’t hold in oil like regular makeup, and I didn’t have to constantly touch my problem spots to cover them up.
2) Using the Oil Cleansing Method to wash my face instead of regular facewash or soap. Google it if you haven’t heard of it! It seems really counterintuitive to wash your face with oil, but I swear it made my skin much clearer, and it feels great. I still use a regular medicated acne facewash about once every week or two, but I usually just use OCM every night and my face is much less oily and breakup-prone.
I finally has gotten my skin clear and it took a lot of hard work. I can say that the ONE product that I feel has saved my skin is the clarisonic. I cant say enough good things about it, and I was in the skincare industry, so I can verify it really does the trick. I wouldn’t even waste my money on any other knock off brand. I would go straight to the clarisonic verison. They have more affordable options now with the mia and mia 2. Also doing a deep cleanse once a week and a facial clay mask to pull out impurities really keeps my skin glowing. I used to use 10% benzoyl peroxide and proactiv on my face everyday and I can tell you that for me its all chemicals and harsh products that made it worse. Now i use the st ives apricot scrub once a week along with the mint julep clay mask from Sally Beauty Supply, and my clarisonic everyday. Another great product line that I use is the Hylunia line and their Salicylic acid face wash is excellent if you have very oily skin. If that still doesn’t seem to do the trick, I can also reccommend getting a blue and red light at home therapy unit. I can tell you that IT WORKS! The blue light kills the bacteria, and the red light helps heal and antiage. You have to get your skin into a routine, make sure products say noncomodegenic, and give your skin time to adjust to your routine. Please dont mix things up every other week. most people do this when they become discouraged. Birth control also helped me, but the clarisonic really was my life saver… along with my weekly routine. Hope this helps!
I’m 25 and I have had terrible acne my whole life. I am currently on a hormonal birth control and I still have acne, but I would no longer classify it as “bad.”
I am undergoing a tea tree oil and activated charcoal regimine from a friend from another forum — you can check it out if you’re interested, HaloSoap on Etsy.
I’ve been using her soap/toner/serum treatment for 2 weeks and my face has cleared up dramatically that even my to-be husband noticed over webcam when we chatted last.
I have a few red marks, but no visible bumps.
Edit: I’m 5’3″ and I am prone to the deep cysts as well. After starting my treatment, I haven’t had a single cyst. If you’re interested (I have before & after pictures I can show you) you can PM me.
Don’t be afraid to ask your regular doctor about it. I went to a derm that prescribed me an awful hormonal medication for cystic acne. When I went to see an MD for something completely unrelated it came up and he switched me to something else. I’m 27 and after almost two months on this topical gel I’m the closest I’ve been to clear skin in years.
Ehh.. I’m 32 and still using acne facial medication daily.
ETA, I use the medication at acne.org and it works great! It works as well for me as the stuff I got prescribed at the dermatologist and it’s alot cheaper.
I’m 27 and strangely, my skin cleared up when I got pregnant. Well, somewhat. I’ll go weeks without any issues, then break out again. It’ll be interesting to see what happens after baby is born.
I was 24 going on 25 when I had clear skin for the first time in a decade (and a teacher as well). Since then, I’ve had a small breakout before my period, and that’s it. The same happened to my mother and she now has awesomely young skin!
If you have a CVS near you the minute clinic can prescribe medication. Not every acne medicine will work for everyone which is why your friends may not have worked for you. I use doxycycline and it works really well for me.
@OnceUponATime: i am 28 and i had problem skin, similar to what you described, until about 6 months ago.
1. i started using a good cleanser for MY skin – not just one i bought at the chemist. i have been seeing a beauty therapist for about 3 years for my waxing, nails and facials when i was spoiling myself, and she suggested using dermalogica clearing wash which was a big help for me. since then i have also added a daily exfoliant and an oil free moisturiser.
2. i tried microdermabrasion for the first time – and i absolutely swear by it. it sounds a bit scary, and it can be quite costly, but it actually makes the scarring go away forever! ive had 6 sessions in the past 12 months (3 x one month apart, then every 3 months) and my skin has improved dramatically. i’ve stopped wearing make up every day!
3. i started using birth control pills – the one i use is called diane and it has helped clear my skin up completely!
good luck! i hope you’re able to work out what works best for you and your skin!
I am just now starting to gain control of my skin with the Murad acne kit- I use the wash, gel, lotion, and spot treatment. It’s the only thing that has worked for me, and thank goodness I found it when I did because I started getting cystic acne on my cheeks right before I started using it.