Post # 1
My idea always wanted to use acrylic crystals to scatter on the table to make it sparkle.
Tonight when discussing with FMIL about my design, she points out that kids will swallow it (her only grandchild which is 1 year old will be among the guests) and suggested me to drop the crystals and use fresh pedals instead (which she doesn’t know how expensive they can be). I don’t want to use fake pedals on the table and I feel like they won’t have the sparkle effect.
I got really bummed out as crystals are going to be the highlight at my centerpiece, honestly, along with candles and a flower bouquet in the middle.
FI didn’t care much as he thinks people should watch over the kids/toddlers and we can’t consider all the minor details for guests. But if someone points this out now and I still used it, I feel like a jerk and putting other’s kids at risk. We do have a few toddlers at the reception that night.
I suggested to have the crystals closer to the center so it will be out of toddler’s hand reach? Would this work?
Anyone had experience in this, or any other alternative I can use? I don’t have a lot of decor at the table so want to maximize the effect of the crystals in the first place.
Post # 3
…ugh…this is a little hard…..I would be of the opnion that parents need to be responsible for their own children (coming from the mother of a 3yr old)…..I would use the crystals…I am very used to watching my daughter like a hawk regarding things that are accessable for her to put in her mouth!
Post # 4
I agree parents should be watching their kids. They can just push the crystals away that are within the toddler’s reach.
Post # 5
Anyway to tether them together? Or maybe put them in something? Forewarn guests with children? Hate to see a child choke because the parents were distracted with the event.
Post # 6
Are you doing a seating chart? What about using the crystals at the adult tables, and mixing in a few tables with petals here and there and putting the families with kids at those. It would eliminate the problem during dinner, allow you to have your choice of centerpiece for the most part, and be kid friendly. As for the after dinner/dancing part of the reception I would say parents need to watch their children.
Post # 7
@nikkialys: I like this idea!!
Post # 8
Thanks for the feedback…..
Alternating the decor depends on the toddler presence sounds like a good idea…
Sigh….got a lot of thinking and more planning to do now 🙁
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
A one year old can’t even sit in a regular chair on their own. How in the world are they going to get the crystals without an adult there?
You can do things for the little ones (kids bags, for example), but you don’t have the abandon your vision for a baby.
Post # 10
@Mrs. Mink: this is how we feel since majority of the kids are babies less than 1…that is why it never came across our mind our design is hazardous. I am not worried too much about the babies…I guess we are more worried about the 1-2 year old ones…who won’t sit still in the high chair and start grabbing everything around them.
But in all honesty, after last night’s conversation with FMIL, I am sure if the grandchild really ends up swallowing one crystal, she will blame us for having the crystals there for sure rather than blaming the parents not watching the kid 🙁
kids bag is a great idea. I will look into it. Maybe it will distract their attention from other things on the table.
Post # 11
I think if the kids are mostly under one years old they won’t be able to get to them on their own. I think it’d be fine. When the kids are at the table they’ll be by their parents and when they’re down they’d be too short to get to them. Sounds like you’re just gonna scatter them around in the middle of the table so they should be fine. Pretty idea!
Post # 12
I think it’s totally fine. The parents should watch them, and I don’t think it’s really a risk anyway. The petal idea also seems funny to me, because while a kid probably wouldn’t choke on a petal, you don’t really want them eating petals either.
Post # 13
We had crystals scattered on our tables around the center pieces (so closer to the center). I had asked our wedding planner if it would be a choking hazard for the kids….she and my DH laughed at me and said that would be the parent’s job. In the end we had them and no one tried to eat them either.
Post # 14
@yellowshoe: I am glad it worked out for yours…
After all the comments here, I think I am leaning towards include the crystals, but just advise people to help me scatter them closer to the center.
Post # 15
Honestly I would say go with the crystals. After getting married a year ago and making so many decisions based on other people I really wish I would have done a few things the way my husband and I wanted(selfish maybe?) But really it is your wedding and if it is your vision go with it.
I mean yeah maybe they are a choking hazard – but really so is anything else for a toddler. I was at a wedding last summer and a kid put an acorn type thing in her nose and got it stuck. And this was just something she found at the venue on the ground – NOT DECOR! She had to be taken to the hospital since she shoved it so far and her father missed the entire reception. So – really even everyday objects can be hazardous and parents really should just watch their kids closely – especially if they are taking them to such a large and important event.
Just my two cents after backing off some of my original ideas after input from everyone else…and also taking the devils advocate position 🙂