Post # 1
My FI and I are hosting our rehearsal dinner. We’re keeping it casual at a restaurant with drinks and sandwiches, because we had to keep it on the cheaper side. Hosting it ourselves means no “groom’s parents” toasts (and it is just his mom who is incredibly shy anyway). My FI said he didn’t really want to give a toast. I feel like there won’t be any “activities” there and people will just eat and leave. I doubt my parents will offer a toast.
I’ve never been to a rehearsal dinner, so I don’t know what is expected, only what I read online. We are planning to give out bridal party gifts. I thought of having a fun little “how well do you know the bride and groom” game, or maybe put out cards for people to write us advice on.
I’d love to make my FI a groom’s cake but I don’t see how there’d be time, or how to suprise him, since we live together.
I’m just afraid it’s not going to feel “rehearsal-dinner”-y. Thoughts? Am I just being crazy? We’re a little over a week out. Yikes!
Post # 2
kb7: nothing needs to happen at rehearsal dinners except eating. I’ve been to a few w no toasts and it was fine. I don’t remember ever having a special cake at one either. It’s really nice that you two are hosting it, that’s good enough. So you can stop worrying about this 😉
Post # 3
You rehearse the wedding ceremony, and then you all eat food. That’s it. No need to do anything else. The gifts, the toasts, the cake, everything else is just extra. Everyone will need a good night’s rest for the wedding, so you can all go home early. There was/will be plenty of fun and games at the shower/bachelorette/bachelor/wedding, no need for more.
Post # 4
I don’t think you need to do anything special. Maybe just say a couple words and thank everyone for coming so that it feels more “official”. Just relax and enjoy the meal with your closest family/friends. 🙂
Post # 5
kb7: Not crazy, just a bride. I don’t think you need to worry about activities and games. With all the stress round organizing a wedding, I think you will be happy just to have an enjoyable meal with those closest to you after the rehearsal.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Rehearsal dinner: rehearse, then dine, then go home. If you want to hand out bridal party gifts, it would probably be more appropriate to do so afterwards. When I’ve been in weddings, the rehearsal dinner is usually the only opportunity for all the bridesmaids/groomsmen/attendants to actually just chat and get to know each other a bit. If someone tried to make it all YAY FUN FUN FUN GAMES ACTIVITIES YAY!, then it would feel to me a) like they were trying too hard and b) I’d probably be a little annoyed at having extra stuff to do and pretend to be excited about. (I don’t like the games anyway.) So just enjoy the meal and relax.
Post # 8
rachel85: whoa_its_ash: julies1949: sarahmichelle: canadajane: Shkragoldfish: Thank you for your replies! Everything I see online talks all about a theme and decorations etc. etc. for the rehearsal dinner. Was making me start to panic a bit!
Still might try to pull off a groom’s cake. Because who doesn’t love cake??
Post # 9
You don’t need to plan out “games” or “activities”. They’re adults- it’s not summer camp.
You run through the ceremony and then you eat. Boom. Done.