(Closed) Actually hoping for awkward moments

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Isilme: Holidays are  rough, especially in a long term relationship when you’re waiting… But take a breather and know its better to wait and it be the perfect moment for you both. Happy Holidays

Post # 4
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1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m with you girl!!  Times are tough right now.  My SO basically told me that it might never happen so I’m really in a runt this season.  All I can hope is he figures it out soon or I feel like I’m going to go crazy!!  Everytime I think about it my stomach starts hurting and I get a lump in my thoat.  It’s horrible.  I have avoided the mall because of all the jewelery stores.

I’m tired of expecting.  I want to just give up and be happy and not feel like I’m not good enough and just not want it anymore.  EXACTLY!!

We just have to stay calm and enjoy the holidays as best we can!  : )

 

 

Post # 5
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3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Isilme: I think if men were hasseled as much as women about their marital status, they’d be a bit less draggy about it.  I think I’m asked about 10 times to his one.

I’ll trade you – you can have my family!  My family harasses him at every get together.  It’s gotten rather awkward.  At first it was just my brother-in-law, then it was an older cousin, then my brother & sister-in-law tell us that “hey, they aren’t bugging us” (yet bringing it up to say that…).  After one get-together a year or so ago, my mom sent a super apologetic email saying “We are so sorry that happened, we understand if you never want to come to family events again” making it even worse.  I think his friends even ask him more than my friends (then again, I just volunteer the info w/o questions to my friends).

Though my sister did remind me (not him) not to announce “important life events” over facebook (had a close cousin do that, we’re her only cousins).

I love my dad who has never ONCE said anything at all.  Yay dad.

His mom’s been pretty cool, though she did offer him her ring a while back apparently. And his brother asked her about us, despite the fact he’s been dating 5 years to our 2.5 with no ring in his sights.

Post # 6
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

ugggh, 2 more years….. youre stronger/more patient than i will ever be!  i hope you have a great Christmas

Post # 7
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439 posts
Helper bee

I totally understand how you feel.  My younger sister got married while I was waiting, and it was torture (we had already been together for 3 years when she got married, they were married for over a year when we got engaged).  Our best friends had us in their wedding while I was waiting (they met after we had been together for 1.5 years, and were married before we even got engaged).  We have been together longer than our 3 couple friends, yet we are the last to get married.

I cried on the way home from my sister’s wedding because I was so frustrated with him not proposing.

He finally did it at around the 4.5 year mark.  It was torture.  He took me ring shopping around our 1 year anniversary and then proceeded to make me wait 3.5 years for the ring.

It sucks.  The jewelery stores killed me every time we walked past them.  Waiting is torture, but there’s usually a happy ending.

Post # 8
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

You’re so right. Men don’t seem to get it as much. BUT, my family is the epitome of inopportune times to ask awkward questions. 🙂 I remember within one weekend, something was said at least 5 times. “So when’s the big day?” To which I answer “You’re asking the wrong half of this couple.” Or “When you two get married…” Or my mom introducing him as “My maybe future son in law?” LOL. The last one made me laugh. She was being sweet but it came out super awkward.

Post # 10
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57 posts
Worker bee

Haha I hope for awkward moments too!  I think it is just to make him realize that I’m not the only one who is wondering why he hasn’t done it yet….  And I guess I like them so it gives someone else to ask him questions that I want to know the answer to yet don’t want to feel like I’m nagging all the time 🙂

Post # 11
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

I wish ppl harassed him. All he gets is little old ladies saying he is so sweet and is he married? He’s not? Well, when he gets married, invite them to the wedding. *eye roll*

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