so, since day 1, ive had problems with fmil....especially with the guest list and getting it in time with everyone she wanted to invite.
it was so more irritating because i made all my invites myself....no one helped me (except stuffing a few) but i did everything myself and really wanted to get them done and over with
so i them finished! enveloped, sealed and stamped, just waiting for fi to take them to the post office that morning. well he comes to work and lets me know that he couldnt mail them bc his mom wanted to eliminate people...the guest list was only long because of her inviting so many people!!! we are way over the amount we can accomodate at dinner and i am hoping the ppl i think are going to say actually do.
but anyways, i go to her house to delete the ppl. she only eliminated 10 ppl. totally not worth eliminating. those ppl prolly wouldnt ahve come anyways.
well this past weekend, im at her house and she has the nerve to say to me "so and so asked if she can bring a guest and i told her that would be ok"
why would you do that knowing we are over limit already, and you were the one trying to eliminate numbers to begin with.
i know the lady but not really well, i dont talk to her.
so i dont know what to do. invite her guest or not? what would you do?
I would say that since there is an obvious issue with numbers that if you start to get "no;s" then it wil be more then fine. I have some cousins that are 17 and still live at home, they want to bring their long time g/f's and b/f's and I told them and their mom "Only if I have enough no's. As I had a B list this never ended up working out for them because I reached my limit of what we can afford.
Does this womaon coming know anyone else that will be at the reception? If so, then it's not like she's going to be sitting alone feeling odd. If she doens't know any one I would let her. Nothings worse then sitting alone
As for you FMIL, sounds like you have some real communication issues with her. I would try to get FI to talk to her about this because coming from him it will be a bit less harsh.
I should not that even though it wasn't her place to invite that ladys guest - being that it's been offered to her maybe you shoulnd't take it back - it could be very rude.
so, since day 1, ive had problems with fmil....especially with the guest list and getting it in time with everyone she wanted to invite.
it was so more irritating because i made all my invites myself....no one helped me (except stuffing a few) but i did everything myself and really wanted to get them done and over with
so i them finished! enveloped, sealed and stamped, just waiting for fi to take them to the post office that morning. well he comes to work and lets me know that he couldnt mail them bc his mom wanted to eliminate people...the guest list was only long because of her inviting so many people!!! we are way over the amount we can accomodate at dinner and i am hoping the ppl i think are going to say actually do.
but anyways, i go to her house to delete the ppl. she only eliminated 10 ppl. totally not worth eliminating. those ppl prolly wouldnt ahve come anyways.
well this past weekend, im at her house and she has the nerve to say to me "so and so asked if she can bring a guest and i told her that would be ok"
why would you do that knowing we are over limit already, and you were the one trying to eliminate numbers to begin with.
i know the lady but not really well, i dont talk to her.
so i dont know what to do. invite her guest or not? what would you do?
posted by redneckcaligurl 54 posts 3 months agoI would say that since there is an obvious issue with numbers that if you start to get "no;s" then it wil be more then fine. I have some cousins that are 17 and still live at home, they want to bring their long time g/f's and b/f's and I told them and their mom "Only if I have enough no's. As I had a B list this never ended up working out for them because I reached my limit of what we can afford.
Does this womaon coming know anyone else that will be at the reception? If so, then it's not like she's going to be sitting alone feeling odd. If she doens't know any one I would let her. Nothings worse then sitting alone
As for you FMIL, sounds like you have some real communication issues with her. I would try to get FI to talk to her about this because coming from him it will be a bit less harsh.
posted by Sweeney2Be 1,488 posts 3 months agoI should not that even though it wasn't her place to invite that ladys guest - being that it's been offered to her maybe you shoulnd't take it back - it could be very rude.
posted by Sweeney2Be 1,488 posts 3 months ago