(Closed) Add on a bridesmain?!?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Add the 4th BM?
    Yes : (3 votes)
    33 %
    No : (6 votes)
    67 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t think you should base the decision on the fact that the others are not helpful.  I just don’t think it’s fair to the new possible 4th BM.  I know it would not be a compliment to me if I was asked to be a BM because of that reason only.  Ya know?  Other people may have other input much different then me.  I think you should send a note to your BM’s.  The one in grad school has a break soon, doesn’t she?  I work a lot of hours, but try to get the one that works a lot to have lunch and run by things.  The other one, lol, I just don’t know what to say.

    You always have us bees to bounce ideas off!!!

    Post # 5
    Member
    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It is hard to tell with just this post because I don’t know your relationships with these girls. However the fact that you are wanting someone to throw you a shower and other responsibilities seems to be unfair to the newest one. Unfortunately you knew how difficult it was having the ones you picked when you picked them, and you may not have the pre-wedding excitement you are hoping for, but be glad to have them there for the day of your wedding. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    If you say you really want her in your wedding because you value her friendship and want her to share that day with you, then tell her that.  I think it’s perfectly reasonable to add her in late in the game– if a friend told me that she realized she wanted me there and didn’t care about odd numbers anymore, I wouldn’t find it insulting.  

    However if you want her just to do work for you, then that’s a little rude. 

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