- Ms Mini
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I just need to have a bit of a vent abour FMIL and a guest list “add-on”.
We haven’t sent the invitations yet, but since we sent STD’s – we know about a couple people who aren’t going to make it – we will still send them an invitation, but know they are going to decline. FMIL called FH the other day, and asked if they could add on people since people on “their list” are going to decline. Apparently one of his (uninvited) cousins has asked to be invited since they *might* be nearby for a baseball tourniment. We have told her that we aren’t going to be offering extra invited in case of declines. But she is pressing to invite them if they “happen to be in town”. I have never met these cousins before.
Background: We initially wanted a 60 person wedding, but got guilted into making it bigger – so we have a list of 120 people that are being invited. We gave our parents free reign to invite 40 people for each “side”. 40 are at our discretion. We have no intention on adding to the list, even though the venue fits 120 comfortably (150 max). His parents are not giving us any money for the wedding, my parents have generously offered to foot the catering bill.
It just drives me nuts, that we were nice enough to offer each of our parents a free pass to invite 40 people, and now she is trying to have a “do-over” since someone can’t make it. Tough – she doesn’t seem to realize that each person costs almost 100 dollars to feed, seat, offer alcohol, etc. These cousins that want to be added have never met me, have no idea who I am and just want to come by if they happen to be nearby – um, no, this is a formal wedding, not a freaking house party.