Adding a +1 when the wedding is in…1 week!

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Good for you for standing up for yourself! It could have been easy to cave but based on principle I think you did the right thing. I get allowing kids of OOT guests, but how would your other local guests with kids feel if they saw you let this couple bring their kid but didn’t allow the others?

Post # 3
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

yukitenshi:  Bravo for you for saying no to this rude cow.

It is always rude to ask to add extra guests but her message really rubbed me the wrong way because it was so pushy and accusing.  It’s clear she felt it unfair that other kids would be there but not hers and then acting like it’s up to you to keep her unwanted and uninvited kid entertained?

I’m glad you didn’t allow yourselves to be pushed into scrambling around last minute to accommodate this person.  Better have your husband double check with the husband that they’re still coming.  She seems like the type who would be a no show and make you pay for two extra plates in revenge.  

Post # 4
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i’m glad you kept your stance and didn’t cave to their rude request.

Post # 5
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Rude…but your FI mentioned that kids would be there? Sounds just like something a man would do….

Post # 7
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

yukitenshi:  good for you!  This kind of business happened to us and I totally caved:(  Some people just don’t understand … it’s more than asking the caterer to make one extra kids meal.  Something like this has a trickle effect and it involves 5 calls, rearranging, last minute printing … all 7 days before the big event, and all you want to do is enjoy!  Geez!

Post # 8
918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

The wedding already happened, but it was rude of you to exclude some kids and not others. It’s either a child-friendly affair or an adults-only affair. If I had made arrangements for my kids and then saw that others were allowed to bring theirs to the wedding, I would have had a lot to say to you. Shame on you.

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