Post # 1
A friend of mine had a cat who had kittens. They are now 6 weeks old and she’s trying to get rid of them and I really want one. The only thing that’s keeping me from doing it is fear that my current cat will freak out. She is the most loveable affectionate little thing to me and DH but she hates everyone else. When we have company over she will literally sit under the table and hiss the ENTIRE time. The vet said it’s because she’s territorial and she’s just trying to protect me and DH.
I called the vet and asked his opinions on getting a second cat and he said it could go two ways, she would freak out and attack the other kitten and it would never get better…to the point that we would need to keep them constantly seperated, or he said it’s possible that the companionship would actually make my current cat calmer and give her a happy life, but he said there is no way to tell beforehand.
My friend plans to turn the kittens over to a shelter if she can’t find a home for the kittens (and yes I’ve already told her she needs to get the cat spayed)
Any advice? Personal experiences with similar situations? What would you do?
Post # 3
@MrsPinkPeony: Your vet is right – it could really go either way. If you decide to get the kitten, make sure to introduce them VERY slowly and be prepared that it could take months, if not longer, for them to really get along. There’s a lot of good advice on the internet about introducing a new cat to a resident cat. (ETA: http://www.humanesociety.org/animals/cats/tips/introducing_new_cat.html) You’ll need to be able to keep them entirely separate for a while, though, so make sure you have a room that would be comfortable for the kitten for an extended period of time.
I introduced a new kitten to an older resident cat. It took a long time before they could tolerate each other. They’re pretty good buddies now, but still have some conflicts, even three years later. It’s worth a shot, but make sure you’re ready to be very patient and that you’ll have a plan in place to re-home the kitten (please NOT with a kill shelter!) if it doesn’t work out. Good luck!
Post # 4
Definitely introduce them slowly. We adopted a one year old female cat then about six months later, we got a male kitten (had him neutered when he was old enough). The kitten stayed in his own room for a while and we introduced them gradually. Our older cat wasn’t thrilled but they grew to tolerate each other. They play fight a lot but it doesn’t usually get out of hand.
Post # 5
Thanks Ladies – I do have some experience introducing cats and I know that slow and steady wins the race =) but I’ve never had a cat like the one I have now. She’s just very very protective and I’m fearful that she won’t tolerate it. For both of you were your cats pretty normal beforehand? I’m just going back and forth because my kitty now is so weird! (still love very much though and don’t want to make her sad)
Post # 6
My older cat is pretty “normal.” She’s never been much of a lap cat, but she’s affectionate and loves attention. She’s usually good with new people, unless there are small children or large groups. Our younger cat is the more dominant/territorial of the two.
Post # 7
Initially we had my cat and the kitten separated so that she could smell him through the door… but the biggest purpose was because he came from a farm and had worms so we didn’t want them around right away.
You’re supposed to feed them on opposite sides of the door so they can smell each other while they eat or get a rag and rub it on the kitten’s neck and then put it by the adult cat’s food dish.
The adult cat didn’t like the kitten at first. She would sniff him and then hiss at them but especially if the adult is female, she probably will not attack the kitten violently. She might swat, but probably won’t bite or anything.
Over time she will get used to the kitten like our cat and every other cat I’ve known has. Sometimes the kitten plays with her and bites at her but she has never hurt him… most adult (especially female) cats won’t. Sometimes males can get a little iffy because of dominance issues, but they normally don’t hurt the kitten unless they think it has a mom around.
I think they’ll be fine. Just remember that dinner time is when cats relax and you want to associate the new cat’s smell with relaxation, not anxiety.