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When I was a kid, my cousins and I stood at doors to the sanctuary and handed out programs at every Aunt's wedding. It was a great way to include us, but not go overboard with the petal tossing.
Who else are you trying to include?
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Some guests could be readers and ushers; for little kids, daydreamwanderer's idea of having them hand out programs is a great idea.
We used the church's sound system at our wedding rather than having live music, and one of our close friends was in charge of the music.
Thanks for the ideas! I will ask my little cousins to hand out programs as people enter the ceremony.
if you have men that you're trying to include, you could ask them to hold the poles for the chuppah. at my brothers wedding they had someone sing sunrise sunset. you can have someone hand out the yarmulkes, because i'm sure a lot of the non jews wont know what they are or if they're supposed to take them.
Another good idea about passing out yarmulkes! I think our chupah will be stationary.
our chuppah will be stationary, but we will still have people by each pole "holding" them. also, there are traditionally seven blessings read in a jewish ceremony, and we will have people reading them in hebrew and english, creating 14 more parts - you can also ask people to do a reading or song of your choice. if you would like more info on the seven blessing (sheva brachot) anita diamont's book "the new jewish wedding" is a great resource
Yes, we will also be asking people to say the seven blessings in hebrew and english. We love Anita Diamant's book!
At our wedding, we had two attendants, one reader, seven people doing the seven blessings, one person operating the music CD, one person videotaping the ceremony, and one person giving ha-motzi immediately following the ceremony. We chose to have a stationary chuppah in large part because we were running out of guests!
Also, don't forget about witnesses to the ketubah, ushers, or people to pass out kippot and programs.
haha we're planning on including ALL (yes ALL, we are crazy) of my bf (still waiting...)'s cousins (23). We're including all sorts of odd jobs...i.e. handing the breaking glass to BF. LOL anything to not let anyone feel left out! We'll also have 1 person handing out kippahs, 1 person handing out kippah CLIPS, 2 people handing out programs...
Thanks! That's so helpful. Coccinelle, any other odd jobs that you are including for cousins?
The kiddish isn't said again at the reception, but my grandpa is going to do the hamotzi!
We had a ton of people we wanted to honor and include, so we had 14 participate in the sheva b'rachot (http://www.weddingbee.com/2009/11/16/æ„›-vey-were-going-to-the-chuppah-and-were-gonna-get-married/); 4 sign the ketubah; 2 sign the civil marriage license; and a number of childhood friends plan the schtick during the hora. Mr. HC's uncles said kiddush and hamotzi at the reception, and two of our friends lit shabbat candles at the welcome dinner the night before the wedding.
As for non-Jewish ways to include more people, how about having friends or those adorable cousins hand you flowers as you walk down the aisle -- thus creating your bouquet on the spot?
Ok let me TRY to break it down (gotta remember!)
2 ring bearers (one for each ring)
3 flower girls (all sisters)
1 girl-who-brings-the-smashing-glass (oldest girl cousin [6 months older than us])
*prepare yourself* 21, yes, 21 readers of the 7 blessings (Hebrew, English, and most of my family speaks neither of those, so French). We may have less than that, and consolidate (people read more than 1...)
2 junior bridesmaids (will be around age 11 by wedding)
One family of the cousins are very musical (1 girl, 3 boys) so they'll probably be singing something
2 people on kippahs, 1 person on clips, 2 on programs (all boys, ages 10-22)
3 male cousins are groomsmen
2 for Hamotzi and kiddush
may or may not have 2 younger girl cousins holding my train... my mom really wants it, I am teetering...
I'm tired just thinking about this!
Good luck! I'm sure any odd job will make them feel extra special and important! Maybe they can read a poem or an easy little picture book-style story :)
Hi Coccinelle,
Thank you so much for outlining that! That was very helpful!
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Hi,
Would anyone know of some additional roles for guests at a Jewish or other type of wedding? I want to include as many people as possible. Also, I have 7 adorable little cousins for whom I'd love to find a role. I can't ask everyone to be the flower girl!
Thanks!