Post # 1
How do I address an invitation to an engaged couple who will be married within the 2 months before our wedding but do not currently live together? Does each partner get their own invitation? But what if only one is your friend and you are simply inviting their to-be-spouse b/c it is their to-be-spouse even though you have never actually met them?
Post # 3
If only one of them was my friend, I would only invite my friend. But I would probably use the soon-to-be spouse’s name on the inside envelope instead of just “Friend and Guest”
That may not be right, though!
Post # 4
I’d put Mr. XYZ and Miss ABC to acknowledge their relationship…
Post # 5
I think you can address the invite to the one who is your friend with the other person’s name as well..
Outer: Mr. John Smith & Miss Jane Doe
or Outer: Mr. John Smith
(Inner) John and Jane
Post # 6
If you are not doing inner envelopes and they dont live together, I would still put both of their names on the envelope to avoid confusion.
Post # 8
The question still remains as to where an invite like this should be sent since they don’t live together. What if you’re friend with both people, but want to invite them together to acknowledge their engagement?
Post # 9
I would say send an invite to your friend, and on the inner envelope address it Jane and John.
If I were in the situation were I’m friends with both people and they don’t live together, but are engaged, then I would send them each an invite. And on the inner envelope put both parties names on them.
Post # 10
If you are friends with them equally (and they live separately), they’d each get their own invitation.
If you are closer to one over the other, then send the invitation to the one you are closer and address as Querida noted above (ie: put both of their names on the mailing (first and last) and then both their first names on the inner).
You don’t need to do anything special because they are engaged – they know you know 😉
In the case of the never-met-before fiance, if you know their name, then do it per the rules above – and if you don’t, you could be ‘cute’ about it and address the outer envelope to your friend and on the inner envelope say “Jane and the soon to be Mr.” or “John and the soon to be Mrs.)
Post # 11
I would say both names on the outer envelope – that’s what we did even for couples who were not engaged but who have been together a while or live together.
Post # 12
I think you should address it Mr. Machin and Miss Chose 400 rue street, etc city….
Even if they don’t live together if they are engaged and will be married soon I’m sure Mr. Machin will let Miss Chose know that they received an invite at his address and vice versa.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Address the envelope to both of them, under the names that they have at the time you send invitations, and mail it to the person who you are close to.
Post # 14
Marigold has it right. And yes, you have to invite the soon-to-be-spouse. Once a couple is engaged they are officially a package deal! 🙂 We got an extra guest that way!
Post # 15
Thanks! We probably have at least 10 couples on our list in this situation so I was very curious… We are not using inner envelopes b/c we are doing the rsvping on our website… but I think I will put both names on the outer envelope and mail to the groom. Thanks for all the suggestions ladies! 🙂