Post # 1
So I’m not doing the inner envelope thing , and i don’t know how to addres the outer envelopes to families with kids?? Do I just put “The Smiths” or do I Put “Mr. & Mrs. John and Jane, Joey, and Joan Smith” ?
Also – do I put guests on the front of the envelope? As in “Ms. Jane Doe & Guest”?
Post # 3
I went with “The Smith Family” after much debate. In terms of +1 guests, we wanted to restrict only guests we knew, so it made it a little easier to address our envelopes. Perhaps you should just address it to the person you are inviting, and have them add their guest later. What is your RSVP situation? Are you using the traditional cards, or online rsvp?
Post # 4
@pengoala: online RSVP. It will have a “guest” spot for them but I want them to know when they get the invitation that they can bring a date.
I like “The Smith Family”…hm.
Post # 5
@smactley: hmm…tough call on the “and guest”. It’s a little weird to have that on the envelope. Let’s wait to see what other bees suggest for you!
Post # 7
I have received several non-inner envelopes that say “Me & Guest” on the outside. It didn’t bother me a bit. I say do that 🙂
Post # 8
For families, I wrote Mr and Mrs. HisName LastName and Children
For couples I knew would come together but weren’t married, I wrote HerName Last Name on the top line and HisName Last Name on the second line, and mailed it to one address. We’ve had people do that to me and FI and so I figured it was OK. I know you’re supposed to mail separate, but I also didn’t want each of them to RSVP with a guest!
For single people, I only sent it to them. I had a slot for # attending. So far, two people have told me they are bringing their boyfriends (which I’m fine with) and then another person just asked if he could bring his girlfriend. Space isn’t an issue, since we were expecting a lot of No RSVPs.
On an invitation to me, I have had it written MyName LastName and Guest, so it’s definitely done.
Post # 9
I put Mr and Mrs Lastname and Family , but for some famillies that I was only inviting some of them I put Mr and Mrs Lastname and John. I really wanted it to be clear how many people were invited.
Post # 10
I think it’s normal to put Mr. Charlie Brown and Guest on the envelope, it lets people know they can bring a guest if they want to …. and if you don’t want them to bring a +1 just put their name that way you can addess it with them politely if they try to respond for more than themselves and you can’t accomodate that – ie. I’m so sorry cousin katie but we had a limited number of guests and that is why we only addressed the invitation to you; cant wait to meet your new boyfriend at another time though…
I’m not sure how to handle the kids thing either though – I like the sound of “The Smith Family” better than adding up all the names but then friends have told me stories about not being 100% clear and having people RSVP with their kids and dates for their kids and all sorts of crazy things – i guess you have to deal with that as it comes up?
Post # 11
From the research I found when I was addressing my envelopes, most suggested that if you don’t have an inner envelope you should list all guests on the outer envelope. Put the parents on the first line, then list the kids in order by age on the second line.
Mr. & Mrs. SoandSo Smith
Mr. Kid Smith, Miss Kid Smith
(insert address here)
Post # 12
@MrsMcGyro:I like the idea of that, but am not sure if I have enough room 🙂
Thanks everybody! I think I might go with putting the guest on the outer envelope…most people are travelling and probably won’t even be taking guests so I don’t think it’s a big deal…and for the families, I think I might put “Mr and Mrs John and Jane Smith and Family”…
although that’s a lot of a”ands”…hm.
Luckily most people whose “family” won’t be making the trip, so ti’s not a big deal…but still, don’t want to ruffle anyones feathers by not inviting their kids 🙂
Post # 13
On the outside, I put only the parents name. On the inside, I wrote “So-in-So” family and on the RSVP return card, wrote “We have reserved ___ number of seat(s) for you.” I included the number of the couple plus the however many kids they had.