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Address STD/Invitations to unmarried/not engaged couples living together...?

posted 3 years ago in October 2009
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    Miss sea spray    December 5, 2009   NJ

    Hi everyone!

     How do you address and send STD to a couple that is invited, and you are friends with both (not like you are inviting a friend, plus 1) that are living together, but not engaged or married. Do you send one STD to the couple? Or are you supposed to send two STD to each individual person?

    It seems stupid and unnecessary to send two, but I'm not sure.

     
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    worcesterbride    August 15, 2009   live in NYC, wedding in Worcester, MA

    Send one, if they're a couple living together. Address it to "Mr. John Smith & Miss Jane Doe"

     
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    BA    7/12/08  

    Just one. I think, technically since they are unmarried, you are supposed to put the lady's name on the first line, and the man's name one line below, with no "and" between them. But I've always thought that is really old fashioned, and we addressed invitations like those to "Jane Doe and John Smith."  

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    We sent one, and we addressed them according to who we knew first. For example, my FI's friend is dating a girl for awhile now. So his invite is "Mr. A and Miss B" but for my female friends, I address them "Miss A and Mr. B" just depending on if we knew the woman or the man in the relationship

     
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    meggyg8r    Halloween 2009   Tampa, FL

    Just one.  BA is right--you're supposed to put the woman's name first with the man's below it, but for our STD's we did exactly what BA did, put "Jane Doe & John Smith."

    For the wedding invitations, however, you will probably want to be more formal.  I found Crane's Blue Book to be extremely helpful when researching how to address my inner and outer envelopes. 

    http://www.crane.com/navContentProduct.aspx?NavName=Etiquette_Tips&DeptName=Etiquette_Wedding&Name=WedEt_AddressingEnvelope&ContentPage=AddEnv_UnmarriedCouplesLivingTogether

     

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