Post # 1
I’m addressing my save the dates right now, and I was just wondering if I’m supposed to address them to include +1s? (Ie. John Smith and Guest). We’re getting married in my hometown on the east coast but are inviting friends from the west coast, so I thought it would be nice for people to know ahead of time they can bring guests if they’re planning on booking airline tickets. Is this correct?
Post # 3
@mrscali13: This is up to you! People who include +1s on their RSVP have a very strict guest headcount and want to avoid their guests writing in more +1s than should be at the wedding. So yes, in a way, it’s kind of a double perk to have the +1 – Guests know how many people to plan their trip for, and you’ll know how many people you’ve invited. Hope this helps!
Post # 4
I didn’t put +1’s on my STD’s. I didn’t see much of a reason to since who they plan on bringing to the wedding could change over a period of time. I only plan on putting +1’s on the actual invitations since that’s when the RSVP’s will be coming in.
Post # 5
@mrscali13: Technically, it’s not correct etiquette-wise. You are suppose to find out if your guest wants to bring a date and then send that person a invitation or save the date. I find that horribly unpractical though!
That being said, I definitely wrote “and Guest” on our Save the Dates envelopes to our guests who could bring a plus one. I find it makes planning a lot easier – you know you can split a hotel room with someone, etc.
Post # 6
Etiquette Snob here (lol, comes with my career)
Save The Dates are NOT Invites… so the Rules of Etiquette don’t necessarily have to apply so strictly.
Save-The-Date Cards are a courtesy heads-up
Technically the same could be done with a simple note or email… BUT Save-The-Date Cards have taken off in the Wedding Stationery biz because they are so dang cute… and the Destination Wedding Biz is now HUGE
So… to answer your Questions
1- You are NOT REQUIRED to send them. If money is tight you can skip them entirely (save Printing Costs & Postage)
2- As a NOTIFICATION you can send them out addressed however you please.
Mr & Mrs John Black (couple)
The Black Family (whole family at that address)
Peter Jones & Sue Brown (Married Different Names, Engaged, Living Together… or even just dating but you want Peter to know that Sue is definitely invited)
or Peter Jones & Guest (Peter is your buddy… and you want him to know he can plan on bringing a date)
The latter comes in handy, if Peter lives out of town, and will be travelling a distance to your Wedding… so therefore you’ve allowed for him to bring a Guest
Hope this helps,
Post # 7
A lot of my guests are local, so I did not include +1. We do have one guest who would have to fly for our wedding, so for him I did include +1 on his STD. I figured it was most practical and helpful for him, that way he knew right off the bat he could bring his girlfriend and he’d be looking at 2 airfares to attend our wedding
Post # 8
We had a ton of Out of Town guests and we included “and guest” on the Save-The-Date Cards for those getting a +1. It is helpful for planning purposes.
Post # 9
I was totally planning to include “& Guest” on my Save-The-Date Cards, but when I was addressing them and wrote it out, I thought it looked funny so left it off. BUT, I do have RSVP on my wedding website, so when people go there to search for themselves, they will see “& Guest” in their household. This probably doesn’t help you, but that’s what I did!