Post # 1
I had previously posted that our wedding invitations were in a box-style envelope…the invitation itself being a book and thick (about 1/8”). We found clear, plastic envelopes to protect the invitation envelopes that fit perfectly. We are planning to attach stamps directly onto the plastic.
Here is my question. I was going to make decorative address labels. Should these be attached to the plastic envelope or the invitation itself (if this is done, the label would show through the plastic)? My worry is that the plastic envelope will be discarded, and there will be no name on the invitation itself. Is this a major faux pas?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Post # 3
Do you mean that you’re worried that there will be no name on the invite, comparable to an inner envelope? Because with regular invitations, most people throw away the outer envelope anyway. Are you doing anything inside to show who is actually invited? Such as "Mr. and Mrs. Smith, Jack, Jane, and Jill" which is what would go on the inner envelope? Or were you just having all of that on the address label? I don’t think it’s a major faux pas to not have a name on invitation, because traditional invitations don’t have names on them anyway. Although, I hope I’m understanding what you’re asking!
Post # 4
Yes that’s what I mean! So our invitation is essentially a book, and it comes in a decorative white envelope. I bought plastic envelopes to protect the entire thing while mailing. if I put the address label on the plastic, there would be no names on the actual invitation. I am just not sure whether this is improper or not!
Post # 5
we didn’t use inner envelopes, so if they threw away the outer envelope, that was it, no name on the inside invite. no one complained – i think it’s becoming more and more popular nowadays.
Post # 6
I think the only issue is if you are not inviting kids. If the outer envelope says Mr. and Mrs John Smith, and there is no "inner envelope" you may have people misunderstand whether their whole family is invited or not. If you are putting Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Family, or are including the kids names on the outer envelope, people should understand.
Also, one thing you are not supposed to do is to address the mailing envelope to someone who doesn’t live there. So if you’re inviting Jane Smith and her boyfriend Jack Jones, and they are not living together, the outer envelope should just have her name, and he would go on the inner envelope or you would send him a separate invitation.
Of course these are all "rules" for formal invitation addressing. If your invitations aren’t that formal, I don’t think you have to care as much about the correct way of doing things.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! We’re inviting full families and including plus ones for everyone. For our married friends or those in a relationship where we know the SO, we are including their name. Otherwise, we’ll just say "and guest."
Lucky for us, only a few of our friends don’t live with their SOs (and in these cases, we are being cheap and only sending 1 invite). Ugh these rules make things so complicated!
Thanks for the help!