Post # 1
I’m having my wedding at an historic old western, victorian hotel. 1880s union hotel. I want the attire to be semi-formal. Just don’t want people to wear jeans, shorts, flannel, regular shirts or sneakers. Does semi-formal say that? How can I address this on the invites or how should I adress it?
Pics of where my ceremony and reception will take place. We are booking the entire hotel, so I don’t mind if people change later on in the night to be more comfortable, but for majority of the day, I was dress up clothes for photos and all. It is a Destination Wedding. So people will be staying at the same hotel or directly across the streey at a motel. Its almost in the middle of no where. It has an old western feel to the town.
Post # 4
I just put “Semi-formal” at the bottom of my reception cards. And on the website I referred to it as a “Semi-formal” reception or “semi-formal reception to follow.”
People will wear what they’re going to wear, but for those who want guidance, it will help.
Post # 5
@echolove: hhhmmm? You could state that the attire is semi-formal. Problem is that everyones interpretation may be different. Some people just don’t dress up as much as others. Sorry I am not much help
Post # 6
I think it’s totally fine to have semi formal listed on the invite. I wouldn’t put it in bold huge letters or anything but it’s okay to state it.
Post # 7
Do you not trust your guests to dress up for your wedding? I usually go by times of the ceremony as to how dressy the occasion is but I would never show up to a wedding in anything less than a nice dress. Most people I know are the same, weddings are usually known to be an event you have to dress up a little bit at least.
Post # 8
Martha says it’s ok to include an attire card:
I could see how people could get confused and start dressing like Wild West Cowboys/girls based on this venue (which is super cool, btw).
The formality of your inviations should also help to tip-off guests as to what to wear.
Post # 9
@turkey22: Yea, the problem is that to some people “semi-formal” means a suit instead of tux and to others it means jeans. I find that “Cocktail attire” is generally understood, so I would use that.
Post # 10
I’m not quite sure what the etiquette is for wording on an invitation…
In my mind, semi formal would be shirts and ties (no jackets) and sun dress. I would probably have to contact someone in the family just to clarify.
Beautiful location, BTW! Totally jealous!!!
Post # 11
I usually judge attire based on the time of the event, the venue, and the formality of the invite. But like others said, I’d never wear anything less formal than a cocktail dress unless instructed to. That said, I wouldn’t be bothered by the mention of “semi formal” on an invite.
Post # 12
@echolove: What a beautiful venue!! I don’t think you need to include a dress code if you are only trying to avoid jeans. Most people (not all) have more common sense than that!
I think the general feeling around here is that you can put dress code on your website or through word-of-mouth, unless it is black tie, which is acceptable to put on the invite.
Post # 13
Personally I wouldn’t put anything on the invites and assume your friends/family know what is appropriate to wear to a wedding. It really depends on your guests though. I’ve seen some invites that say “wear your sunday best” or something along those lines too.
We didn’t put anything on our invites and only one person came really under dressed, which honestly was pretty expected of him (real classy guy, let me tell ya!).
Post # 14
@ShutterbugCait: Yeah, I don’t trust one side of the wedding guests to dress appropriately without guidance, hence the “semi-formal.” Semi-formal to them will be like nice casual to the other side, but at least it should keep most people from wearing t-shirts with holes in them.
o_O. I know. It is two very different “cultural” areas the sides are from.
Post # 15
That location looks so awesome! I think semi formal attire is perfect for the venue. I would just have a small note at the bottom of the reception card saying something like “semi-formal attire requested”
Post # 16
Technically, semiformal means dark suits for men and afternoon or cocktail dresses for women. Sounds to me, you’re more looking for business casual or business formal.
I also don’t really think putting attire on an invitation is necessary unless it is black tie requested. People should know what is and is not acceptable for a wedding. If they have questions, they can contact you directly. It is rude to assume that people don’t know what to wear by telling them on the invitation.