(Closed) Addressing dietary concerns on RSVP cards

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How important is it to give guests an option to write-in dietary issues on the RSVP card?
    Very important : (10 votes)
    37 %
    Meh...people will tell you if there's an issue : (15 votes)
    56 %
    Not important : (2 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2106 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    At the bottom of our RSVP cards we had “Please note any special dietary requirements.” We had about 3 vegetarians I knew about. Thanks to that little note I found out that some of our guests were allergic to dairy, shellfish, and coconut. As a result we were able to warn those people which passed hor d’oeuvres were not safe for them as well as have a special non-dairy meal prepared in advance (our beef option had a blue cheese glaze). Many people with allergies are used to sucking it up and avoiding sides or even main dishes. We wanted all of our guests to be comfortable. 

    Funny note: one of my day’s friends wrote underneath “Please note any special dietary requirements” the words “I require only Scotch.” Hehe

    Post # 4
    Member
    11753 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think people with dietary concerns know how to address those issues at events like weddings.  Whether that be to call you and ask beforehand, come prepared by eating beforehand, etc. I don’t think it’s necessary or all that appropriate to put it on the response card to be honest.

    Post # 5
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    5658 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    In my case, I knew the two people who had dietary concerns, so I arranged special meals for them myself. I would have expected anyone who had any dietary concerns to contact me if they needed a special plate.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2743 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

    Put a one liner on the RSVP card that states “If you have special dietary requirements please call with your RSVP” . This is what we do at my company.

    Other than the formal dinner since we’re doing it with a real menu at a restaurant the cake and dessert party at my wedding will be entirely gluten free.

    Post # 7
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    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I am one of these people with dietary concerns. What I would love to see as a guest is one line on the RSVP card saying something like, “Vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, and other special meal accommodations available. Please indicate your request here: ________________” It might sound clunky, but I would get that specific just so that people know what’s available.

    Post # 8
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    11352 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I initially struggled with how to manage a choice of menu selections and all of these other accompanying issues on a small response card.  Eventually, we decided to follow the path of two, other, very elegant weddings I had most recently attended in our area. 

    Our response cards included no reference whatsoever to a meal selection or dietary requirments. In fact, we didn’t offer a choice of meals at all. Rather, we offered a combination plate of filet of beef and shellfish as our entree, and on our wedding website, we noted the menu we were serving.  At the end of that description, we put a line that said, “If you are allergic to shellfish or cannot eat beef, please contact __________” and listed our e-mail addresses.

    I also already knew that several of our friends and family members were allergic to shellfish or could not eat beef. (I created a specially coded, vellum card that I placed over each of these guests’ escort cards in their escort envelopes, with instructions to place the cards at their place settings.  I also provided to the catering staff a list of the number of each of these special meals by table number.) Instead of the standard combination plate,  any guests who could not eat shellfish simply received a double beef entree; likewise, those who could not eat beef received a double shellfish entree. When I learned through another friend that one of our guests is a vegetarian, I contacted that guest’s spouse (the person I knew) to find out which vegetarian option that the venue offered that would most appeal to her husband.

    During our hors d’oeuvres hour, we offered a variety of options, including mini Beef Wellington, coconut shrimp, fresh bruschetta, crab dip, white-pizza triangles, and a huge display of fresh fruits and cheeses.

    This simple approach worked very well for us, our venue, and our guests.

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