Post # 1
When addressing save the dates to roommates, do you include both names on one Save the Date or do you send two? And to a couple who is about to be married and living together, do you address it to each person ie “John Smith & Jane Doe” or could you say “The Future Mr. & Mrs. Smith”? And if you know one spouse but not the other would you still address it to “Mr. and Mrs. Person” or would you say something to the effect of “This Person and Husband”?
Post # 3
I would send an invite to each individual in a house if they are part of a different family even if they are roommates.
When I addressed my invitations I used their titles as they were at the time they received the invitation. Therefore, if they were not married yet but living together I would address it with both of their names: John Doe and Jane Smith.
I hope this helps
Post # 4
1. If people live in the same place but are not members of the same family (ie, roomates, or technically even grown children (18+) who still live at home) then each person gets his/her own invite. So you send two STDs. Sending one sort of implies they’re a couple (even though I’m sure they’d get it if you just sent one. Do send two invites, though).
2. If a couple is not married yet, you list them on separate lines alphabetically by last name:
Dr. Jane Doe
Mr. John Smith (or whatever)
I don’t think you use “Future Mr. and Mrs. Smith” even though it’s cute.
3. If the two people are married, then you address them as “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith” even if you don’t know one of the spouses. If you would like to address the envelope more casually using their first names, you’ll have to find out the name of the spouse you don’t know.
Post # 5
@FMM: Do you do the same for Save the Dates? Especially if they are magnet Save the Dates which would mean they would have 3 on the fridge.
Post # 6
You need to send two save the dates to room mates. I had friends who got one wedding invitation and were quite upset – they still talk about it six months later.
Use both names for people who are living together but not married.
You should never address something to Mrs. Smith & husband – use both names or address it just to the person you know.
Post # 7
1. We sent only 1 STD per address but sent separate invites to the individuals/couples. I think since STDs often go on fridges, it’s fine to have 1 per household.
2. Even for soon-to-be-marrieds, I would address the invitations with their current names.
3. Don’t put “and husband.” Find out the person’s name before you send the invites.