addressing invitations

posted 2 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

SouthernBee00:  I stuck to the Mr & Mrs. tradition. <br /><br />

I understand that you are friends with the wife first, but the proper way to address an envelope is Mr. & Mrs. not Mrs. and Mr. I’ve never seen anything addressed to Mrs. & Mr.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I agree that tradition is Mr. and Mrs. John Doe.

For me, I like Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Doe. If Jane is the primary invitee, then I like Mrs. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe.

You really can do whatever you want.

Post # 5
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  • Wedding: September 2013

SouthernBee00:  oh, I am sorry. 

thats what I did, I addressed it as Mr. & Mrs. John Smith. Unless they are a judge or a doctor, there are different ways to address them. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

 

SouthernBee00:  It’s always Mr & Mrs. You can add the Joe and Jane Smith if you want but Mr. & Mrs. Joe Smith is the traditional standard. I have a bunch of Dr’s to addrtess (MIL;s Co-workers) so i had to get the correct who is a Dr. and who is a Mr. from her. It gets really complicated when they are both Dr’s and don’t have the same last name…..

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I know a lot of people who really hate the “Mr. & Mrs. John Doe” construction. It’s not just older people either – my mother, who is in her 60s and fairly conservative/traditional also hates it. She’s not ‘offended’ by it exactly, she would just really prefer not to be addressed as Mrs Hisfirst Theirlast.

There’s no perfectly elegant solution for it, but a lot of people have used “Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Doe”. I think there’s some argument that the title should not be separated from the first name. I think the closest to traditional would be “Mr. John Doe & Mrs. Jane Doe”, but that does seem a bit redundant if they have the same last name.

I actually decided not to use titles at all for a number of reasons, and this was one of them. My wedding was not black tie formal, so it didn’t seem weird to me to simply use “Jane and John Doe”.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

SouthernBee00:  On the outer envelope you can follow tradition with Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and on the inner envelope you can put John and Jane Doe, so both first names are incorporated.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

SouthernBee00:  For my daughter’s wedding (2014) we did Mrs. Jane A. and Mrs. John B. Doe. The venue wanted individual escort cards, with the entree choice clearly marked, so we just went with using both fist names, and ladies first. I figure there isn’t a wrong way, unless guests complain about it (which always happens with something).

I married 37 years ago and didn’t change my last name. Some people still didn’t have a clue how to address mail to us, even though both daughter’s wedding invitations were issued by Ms. Jane. A. Smith and Mr. John B. Doe. But then, it’s mostly my MIL who refuses to admit I didn’t want to become Mrs. Familyname. Argh!

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