(Closed) Addressing invitations for someone who goes by their middle name

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@smiles4jo:  My father goes by a shortened version of his middle name. I didn’t do the Mr. and Mrs. thing on invitations, but I addressed to the equivalent of “Michael Jones”. If he goes by that name all the time, he probably won’t even think twice seeing it on the invite. Whereas if he saw John Michael Jones, he might take pause and think, “wow, that’s weird.”

Post # 4
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My dad goes by his middle name, and formally he is Firstinitial. Full Middle Name Lastname.

Post # 5
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Mr. J. Michael Jones

Post # 7
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it is fine to do Mr. Michael Jones.

One of our friends goes by his middle name. At his wedding, he even used his middle name in the vows. 

There’s usually a reason (even if it is just personal preference) they use their middle name, so while they would probably acknowledge it would be more correct to have the first name, they would probably appreciate you using their preferred name. 

If you still feel a little wierd doing it, you could use his first inital only:

Mr. J. Michael Jones

Post # 8
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

One of my BMs does this!  Pretend her name is Margaret Christine Smith.  I know she hates being called Margaret, and usually goes by Christy.  I addressed her invite to Ms. Christine Smith because it’s still formal sounding, but it wouldn’t offend her.

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