Addressing invites

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
45 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

List the names when there are kids, otherwise they might try and bring Aunt Jo and Cousin Bob, too.

There are a bunch of great sites for how to do envelopes. We’re using this one (but don’t have inner envelopes, so on the only/outer envelope are listing kids on the second line or adding “and guest” when appropriate): link

 (Edited to make that a hyperlink, oops)

Post # 4
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We did it like this:

Susan and James Jones for married couples whose names were the same

The Smiths for families

Sally Davis and Mark Gray for couples (married or unmarried) whose names were not the same

Post # 5
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are only having children who still live at home (high school, college, or right out of college), so I addressed to each child’s name individually.  “And family” leaves a wide open gap and up to interpretation.  I would address all envelopes to those specifically invited only.  We are not doing a +1 for the children unless they are engaged or married (and I have their SO’s names on the invitation).

For instance,

Mr. and Mrs. Tom Jones

Mr. Evan Jones (son of above)

Ms. Tamara Jones (daughter of above)

I list the children in their age order for formality.

Post # 6
8847 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I did the kids’ names when I knew them, but for a few I just put “and Family” because I couldn’t remember the names.  I doubt anyone would be stupid enough to bring their parents or cousins or whatever… (then again, people can be suprisingly dumb…)

Post # 7
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

If they have kids (and the kids are invited – mainly just the official invites for my bridal party people (the kids are the bridesmaids, parents are family)) Then the kids’ names are on the invite – eg: Ken & Beth, kid1 & kid2 Smith

The way we are doing it, is that if the name is not on the envelope, they are not invited – just the way the rsvps online work, they have to search for a name that we entered and if its not there, they cannot rsvp. 🙂

Post # 8
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@lolot:  This. We did these:

The Smiths
1234 Main St.
Beetown, CT

I would hope that people would be smart enough not to think that anyone who DOESN’T live at that address is invited. Then again, we’ve gotten a couple of RSVPs back with no name, when the line says NAME(S) right under it.

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