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Addressing invites - unique family situation

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    torybrian    August 14, 2010   Livermore

    I've been looking around for ways to address invites for our unique family situation, but can't find this scenario anywhere.

    My parents are not paying for any part of the wedding. My aunt and uncle (my dad's brother and his wife) are hosting the wedding at their house and paying for alcohol + a few other things. They are being very generous. My FI's family is not paying for anything. So, how do I address the invites? "The families of ... " doesn't seem to be appropriate since it's really only my aunt and uncle who are contributing. And, my grandma paid for the dress - does that make a difference at all?

     
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    JoJo Bananas    August 21, 2010   Santa Cruz, CA

    "together with their families"

     
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    torybrian    August 14, 2010   Livermore

    One more note - not only is my fiancee's family not paying for anything, but they're actually not coming to the wedding. They don't approve of our marriage and have tried their hardest to break us up. 

    I have "together with their families" written on our invitation drafts, but something just doesn't seem right about it. On the other hand, we have "Taylor Teepee" (the house/cabin name) listed as the location on the wedding, which kind of gives credit to my aunt & uncle. 

     
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    periwinkle      

    This sounds exactly like the situation that happened in our family a couple of years ago.  They went with "Groom's Name" and "Bride's name" have chosen x date to be married, etc.  and then just listed their parents names at the bottom, which you could leave off if you wish.  Her parents didn't attend and didn't help pay either, it was all done by her aunts.

     
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    purpleNat    July 30, 2010   Live in Indiana wedding in NY

    Have you asked your aunt and uncle? I was going to write "together with their families" but my mother was appalled. "How dare you not write out our full names!" she cried.

    Ask your family to see if they have any expectations first, and if they don't, get a bit creative.

    Along with the Taylors

    Bride and Groom

    invite you...

    or

    Bride and Groom

    invite you to Mr and Mrs Taylor's home

    for their wedding...

     

    If you can't find any good wording, then don't include them in the invitation, but write a big thank-you note to them on your website, and when speeches come up, toast to them for making the day possible. Unless they're only doing this to see their names in print, a heartfelt thank-you should make them feel appreciated.

    That is unless they want to see their names in print like my mom...

    Good luck!

     

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