Post # 1
So I was just going over my guest list and we actually have quite a few people we are inviting who live with their siblings. They’re all adults so I was wondering what the ettiquette on this one is. Do they each get their own STD/invite addressed to just them or do I send one with both of their names on it And the name of their guest. For example, Jane and John Doe are siblings and she’s dating James Smith, do I adress it to:
Jane Doe and James Smith
123 Any Street
Any City, AS
or would Jane and James get one invite and John gets a second? Also, if a person isn’t living with their significant other but their significant other doesn’t live with them, do I need to get their significant other’s address, or is it okay to send it to my cousin Jane and have her boyfriend’s name on her invite?
Post # 3
Adults you want to invite with SOs / Dates / Plus Ones (no matter where they live, or with whom) get their own invite…
So… Jane Doe & Guest (GOOD)
Jane Doe & James Smith (BETTER)
Send one Invite to Jane Doe, and other to the home of her Boyfriend or Best Friend James Smith (BEST)
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Adults who are siblings, but live at the same address, who you are inviting as singles, can recieve one invite…
The Misses Doe
Then on the inside Envelope, you can write:
Jane and Joyce Doe (GOOD)
or send them each their own Invites
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The example, you’ve given:
Jane Doe & James Smith… if they live at different addresses isn’t that great.
And the other one…
Jane Doe & James Smith
and John Doe
Is uber impersonal… and makes poor John look-like (Feel like a 3rd Wheel). If he is over 18 years old then he needs his own Invite
(Rule of thumb here is EVERYONE over 18 gets their own Invites IF they aren’t part of a recognized social unit… Engaged / Living Together / Married)
Hope this helps,
Post # 4
@futuremrste: I believe etiquette says separate invitations. They are independent adults, and each will respond separately and make their own arrangements. (Or it’s possible one can attend and one can’t).
And if they’re going to get separate invitations, you might as well spend a stamp and send them in separate envelopes. There is a practical reason: when adults share a home (either siblings, or parents with adults children), they often lead parallel lives, i.e. they share a home but don’t interact too much. So it’s possible that one of the adults doesn’t get told properly. So send each one separately.
EDIT: (sorry I missed part of the question) And I agree with the other posters: Jane’s boyfriend doesn’t need his own invitation; you invite the couple and send the invitation to Jane’s house.
Post # 5
In the case of the siblings, I would give two separate invites – one to the couple and one to the sibling. With couples who don’t live together, just one invite – otherwise they may think the other has not been invited and they need to know they’re invited as a couple. We invited couples together, regardless of if they lived together or not.
Post # 6
Thanks ladies! I was 99% sure that siblings would get their own invites but Fiance thought it was a waste of money.