Post # 1
So my Save the Dates came in the mail and I’m in love with them. They are postcards with a picture from our Engagement Photos. I know there are particular rules for addressing Wedding Invitations but are there any particular rules for Save the Dates? Do I include guest on them and what about family members with lots of children, I have one cousin that has 8 children! Please any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
@emteague: I’m not sure about the “and guest” part of your question, but if you’re inviting the cousin’s children usually “and family” works. Unless they’re the sort who thinks that means extended family too. I’m the oldest of 11 and people always address things to us “and family”. That’s what we chose to do with our guests, but we didn’t send out STDs, just invitations.
Post # 4
Ya know? I just addressed the envelope the same way I’d address any other envelope. I don’t come from a family, nor does my fiance who reads and analyzes envelopes the way it appears others do. They look for the name to make sure it belongs in the right house and what’s inside is more important than the envelope that’s going to go in the trash.
Post # 5
I was wondering this too. Some people are getting +1 and some aren’t, but I don’t want them to think they are! Also, a lot of people don’t get to bring their kids. I think for those I would say “Mr. and Mrs. Lastname” instead of “the Lastname Family” to make that clear. For most of my people getting a +1, I know the +1’s name so I’ll just write it on there. Otherwise, they’ll figure it out when they get invites 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - The bride's hometown United Methodist Church near Kalamazoo
I see Save the Dates as rather informal, so I went with informal addressing on my postcards. If it was to Amy and Robert Smith (made-up names), I would address it to Amy and Robert Smith (I didn’t use formal titles since they were postcards). If it were to Amy and Robert and their children, I would address it “The Smith Family”. If it was just Bob Smith and I wanted him to have a date for the wedding, I addressed it to just “Bob Smith”: on his more formal invitation, he’ll be “Mr. Bob Smith and Guest”.
EDIT. My one exception to the above is if a couple was either living with each other (then I would obviously address it to both of them: ie, “Bob Smith and Janie Hoverton”) or if they weren’t living together but I know both of them and they are a close, long-term couple (who probably will be living together before the wedding!!).
Post # 7
Since STD’s are informal we didn’t put & guest. For the family’s with children we just put Mr. & Mrs. ____ and Family. We tried to follow etiquette the best we could. Some are just tough situations. This worked the best for us though.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I would absolutely not include anything about guests or dates. Send to the person/people you will invite no matter what. How silly would you feel if you sent an STD to your friend Mary and her BF John and come wedding time, they aren’t together but you already committed to inviting John? Just send to Mary and handle the SOs later on. If you have decided to definitely invite kids, send the STD to the family, but if you aren’t sure, just send to the parents and add the kids later.
ETA: If the couple is married, engaged, or living together, the STD should go to both… but otherwise, I’d leave the dates/partners out of the equation.
Post # 9
Thank you so much for all of the advice! It helped alot, I can now spend my morning before work tomorrow addressing them 🙂
Post # 10
I actually just addressed mine, and I kept it pretty informal. I only put “and guest” on one of the STDs, because this is the only guest who is flying from halfway across the country, so if he needs to budget plane tickets, hotels, etc. I wanted him to know he can bring his girlfriend right off the bat