Post # 1
Hi all, i’m hoping that someone can help me with a dilemma i’m having regarding addressing the envelopes. I have an outer envelope and an inner envelope, I would like to address all the outer envelopes in "formal" wording…ie Mr. and Mrs. John Doe…but i would like to address the inner envelope (for close friends and family only) as….John and Mary…or Uncle John and Aunt Mary…(some may be Mr. and Mrs. Doe)
Is this okay??? having a formal outer and a not so formal inner?
These invites will be sent from the parents of the bride so when i write the inner envelope, should it read the relation of the parents to the guest or from the relation of the bride to the guest?
thanks for all your help
Post # 3
I addressed mine this way, so I would say it is appropriate…
A WB Pro just posted on this, maybe it will help!
Post # 4
What a great WB Pro post on addressing!
To answer the rest of your question, if the invitation is technically from your parents (they are hosting, the invitation reads such that they are requesting the pleasure of the guest’s company, and their return address is on the envelope) then the relationship portrayed on the inner envelope (e.g., Aunt Jane and Uncle John) should be the relationship to your parents. If your invitation says that you and your FI, together with your parents, request (etc etc) and your return address is on the envelope, then you are technically hosting the event, and the inner envelope should read correctly for the relationship that you (or your FI) have with the guests.
Post # 5
thanks ..i did read that WB Pro post a few days ago…i guess i just wanted to be sure thats it’s okay to address the inner envelope "less formal",
In the end, I dont think the relatives will notice one bit.
One other question please…We are trying to save money, by NOT getting a calligrapher to address the envelopes. So I have been fiddling with my computer printer, and have finally got the envelope to print…I have picked a very nice script font..Brock Script, to use as the font…will this be okay, instead of "hand" calligraphy?
thank you all for your help
Post # 6
Using your printer for ‘calligraphy’ is fine. There are plenty of fancy-pants printing places where the calligraphy they offer is computerized.
Whether or not to use first names on the ‘innies’ depends on the etiquette source your consulting. Some say it’s fine for family, some don’t. I used first names for all of the inners — using the Mr. and Mrs. stuff just felt too awkward.
Post # 7
I think it’s perfectly fine, especially if they are people you are close and familiar with! I also agree that digital calligraphy is getting more and more common nowadays, especially since people usually have their own printer anyway. I’d just do a few test runs on extra envelopes (maybe 5 in a row) — you might run into some issues with the alignment or the printer just being annoying and eating your flap (speaking from experience). Worth it though if all goes smoothly!