Post # 1
I’m planning to informally address my save the dates, but can’t seem to figure out whether I should inlclude the “& guest” for the single folks, or if that should only be on our official invitation? Also, in a married couple would the woman’s name be first or the man’s?
It’s probably not a huge deal because I’m not being formal about it, but I’m still scratching my head…
Post # 3
We did the man’s name first, and didn’t mention anything about a guest. We’ll be doing that with the invitation.
Post # 4
I’m going through this right now too. I think for the “and guest”-ers, we are not going to put And Guest on the STD, and just wait to do that on the invitation.
Post # 5
We did “Mr. & Mrs Lastname” for the married couples, “John Doe and Jane Dee” for the unmarried couples, and “Joe Cool” for the individuals. No guests were mentioned… I don’t want to hear everyone’s guest choices so far in advance of the invites themselves (because you know some people are going to want to “clear” them with you)
Don’t worry about the “and guest” part, they can figure that out when they get the invite.
Are you doing envelopes? I know this sucks but that envelope is going in the trash and the save the date is going on the fridge… so don’t worry too much about it!
[ETA] for one couple cohabitating but getting married next week week we wrote “The Future Mr & Mrs Blahblah” just to be funny 🙂
Post # 6
I think I went ahead and included the line about “Guest” on our save-the-dates just to give people a heads up. May not have been totally right etiquette-wise, but I was trying to make things clear for my guests.
Post # 7
OK, I’ll leave off the & guest. 🙂
@CakeyP: Yeah, just doing the one outer envelope; they aren’t postcards. You’re right, people aren’t going to remember what I put on the envelope anyway.
Another situation I thought of was wives with different or hyphenated last names. Would that be Mr. Joe Cool and Mrs. June Smith-Cool? <— (reminded myself again, the evelopes will just be going in the trash…)
Post # 8
We did first + first last name for couples, and just one name for our single guests (even though they will be allowed a date for the wedding). As to who came first, we just listed who we knew better!
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
I know who the “And Guest” are for most of the guests so I am putting their names. I am puting Girl and Boy Lastname, but only last name if their names aren’t too long or just Girl and Boy is they aren’t married. There are very few people who don’t have a long term SO and I don’t think they will end up bringing a guest anyway. We are having a semi-destination wedding so it would be weird if they brought their girlfriend of 1 month across the country for a wedding.
Post # 10
I left off “& guest” for the STDs. I just put that on when I sent the actual invites.