(Closed) Addressing Save the Dates Question

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: For those in a relationship where I don't know the significant other, I should address it:
    Miss Jane Doe : (10 votes)
    71 %
    Miss Jane Doe, Mr. Jane Doe's Boyfriend : (4 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I know nothing about etiquette, but in my opinion if you’re allowing everyone a plus one, then you’d just address the SDT to the person you know and let them decide to tell/bring their SO. What if they break up by the time your wedding comes around? Then they won’t have a STD addressed to someone they aren’t with anymore, and they can bring a different +1. 

    Post # 5
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would not do boyfriends/girlfiend names on the STD’s.  I would just do the person you’re intending to invite.  Then the invitation is where you would address it to the people part of that grouping/party.

    Post # 6
    3264 posts
    Sugar bee

    If you include the boyfriend you will have to invite them even if the couple breaks up. 

    STD’s are an invitation, and are really meant to be sent to only those people that you CANNOT get married without.  It doesn’t sound like you care about these boyfriends at all, so send them to Jane Doe.


    Post # 8
    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    For those in serious relationships we addressed Save-The-Date Cards to:

    Jane Doe
    John Smith
    123 Weddingbee Lane (Jane’s address)

    with the member of the couple we know listed first, and the date second.  A few couples broke up before we sent out invitations.  We sent invitations only to the first name (i.e., Jane).

    For singles we addressed Save-The-Date Cards to Jane Doe and invitations to Jane Doe and Guest.

    Post # 9
    2999 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Oops. I voted wrong! Should have said just name for person and not date/bf except for long terms.

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