Post # 1
We are sending a combination Save the Date and holiday card. Since we’re not inviting children to the wedding (because it would add up to 75 kids!!!), is it all right to address the save the date/holiday card to the family, or does that make it seem like the whole family will be invited to the wedding?
Post # 3
It could lead some people to think that the whole family should save the date.
You could address the envelope only to the adults invited, or add a line to the STD mentioning an adult reception.
Post # 4
I would definitely only address them to the people who are going to be invited to the wedding. Invitations and addressing are ALL ABOUT setting expectations – including “The Smith Family” or “John & Jane Smith & Family” is setting expectations that are going to be violated later – making people unhappy.
Definitely a downside to holiday/STD combos I hadn’t thought of before.
Post # 5
If you include the holiday card to the family, they are going to assume that everyone is invited. I think this has the potential to create some very sticky situations.
Post # 6
I think in this case you might need to a) send a holiday card to the family, and b) send a separate STD to the adults just to make it clear (although people won’t always get this of course), or c) no holiday card, just an STD to the adults.