(Closed) Addressing Save-the-Dates: No Kids? Include Guest?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Just put the names on the save the date of the people who are invited (so no kids’ names). Don’t put “and guest” on save the dates at all when they are generic plus ones and not known dates/significant others; you can deal with that part when you get to the invitations (“guest” doesn’t need to save any date, because “guest” is not a real person ;).

Post # 4
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would only address the Save-The-Date Cards to the adults since you don’t want children at the actual wedding. Let them visit the website and see the information for childre and childcare.

For couples, I would address the STD to the person in the couple who is actually your friend or relative. Then, when the time comes to mail out actual invitations, include the name of the significant other if they are still together at that time.

Good luck!

Post # 5
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

For question 1: Just put Jane & John Doe. They can refer to the website for info on their kids.

For question 2: I addressed my Save-The-Date Cards to the people living at that address. So if the bf/gf live together, they got one invite. If they live apart either just one person got the STD (just addressed to them) and we let them know their SO is also invited, or each person got a STD separately.

I did not put “and Guest” on any Save-The-Date Cards, that is for invitations only.

Post # 6
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011


That’s really nice of you to have a babysitter available!  We’re just not inviting kids lol.  Well I’ll take that back the only kids that are invited are the ones in the wedding.   We just put that it would be an ‘adult reception.’  I would hope most people would know what that means.  Maybe you could do ‘Adult Recption, Child Care Provided’

Just a thought.  As far as your other question if they aren’t married, engaged, or I’m 100% sure that engagement will happen really soon I just put the person’s name + Guest.  ex. Ms. Jane Doe & Guest.  It probably depends on how long they have been together and how well you know both people in the relationship.

Not saying that is the right way to do it but its the way I’m doing it.


Post # 7
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with Spaniel.  I addressed our save the dates to the actual people invited.  On the invites is where I will list the guests’ name.  Like you said, they may not be together in six months.  The STD is a placeholder in their calendar, so it’s not necessary to find out guest names, etc. until the invite anyway.  As for the kids, just let your website do the talking.  

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