Post # 1
How are you all handling addressing your save-the-dates to people who have boyfriends/girlfriend (not living together) who you plan to invite? We are not doing generic “and guest” invites; but we are inviting all significant others without making any judgment calls about how significant (basically, if you have a SO by the time the invitations go out, we will list them on the invitation by name).
I’m a little stumped on the STDs though – would you list the SO by name, even if they haven’t been together a super long time? I would want our friends to know their SOs are included, but of course if they broke up in the meantime the SO wouldn’t be invited.
Post # 2
Send them each their own STD. Or just address it to both of them on the envelope and send it to whomever is the person that is being invited with the SO.
Post # 3
I would send the STD addressed to just the invitee- it’s possible that they could break up before the wedding. If they are living together, address to both. If not, I would leave the SO off until it’s time to send invites. I had the same worry for my STDs but didn’t have any issues not including SO’s.
Post # 4
goblueca: Adress the SO by name, but only send the invite to the main invitee’s home.
Post # 5
I’m going to address to “Person’s Name and Person’s Name” for people that we feel confident will still be together by the time the invitations go out. Ie: my cousin and her boyfriend who live together or our friend who’s been talking engagement with her bf.
If it’s someone that we don’t know will last that long (not that we would doubt them or anything, but just that the relationship is pretty new or whatever), then I’ll be doing “and guest.” I’m also doing “and guest” on a couple STDs that are going to single people because I want them to know that should they start dating someone or wish to bring a date, they’re welcome to. It helps that we trust the judgment of those peopl.
Post # 6
We weren’t sure what to do here either and just left the SO off. When it’s time to send out invitea we’ll have an inner envelope with both their names on it. It’s awkward to put someone’s name on the address line when they don’t live at that address.
Post # 7
We sent STDs last week and only listed the main invitee even if their significant other is involved (I thought that was proper ettiquette!) And we have already gotten multiple messages asking if their SO is invited. sheeeeesh guess I made the wrong call on that one!
Post # 8
STDs go out so far in advance…I would just send it to the invitee. I would put both names on the invitation.