Post # 1
I have 7 months until my wedding. I am hoping to send the save the dates this weekend, but I have two questions:
1. Am I cutting it too close to send the save the dates? Should I just wait two more months and send the invites?
2. If I send the save the dates, do I address the save the dates in the same prescriptive manner as the invites?
Post # 3
I don’t think its too late – there will still be months until the invitations go out so you’re still giving them to book hotel, ask off work, get plane tickets. I’d go for it.
I did Mr. and Mrs. on most of my save the dates. But I’m not a big etiquette stickler. I think they can be more informal than the invitations, personally. But it is good to get the system in place so all the addresses are ready for the invites. I realized I had a couple addresses without: zip codes, last names, street numbers. So this has given me extra time to iron out those small problems. Plus you get some returned, so that will help with the invitations too!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA
It’s definitely not too late to send save-the-dates. I am sending mine this month, too, and my wedding is in September. I have read that 6-8 months is a good time to send them out, but really whatever works for you!
I am not sending my invites until 8 weeks before the wedding, so gaudior23 is right — this will still give your guests some basic info and allow them to make hotel reservations, etc.
Post # 5
I sent my STDs out at the 6 month mark. Invitations go out at the 2-3 month mark (which I am now treading upon that 2 month mark but anyhow!). I set up a wedding website and put that information on that page.
As far as addressing them, I used mr&mrs… but some of them I just put names. They aren’t as formal as invites and are often a little more lighthearted.
Post # 6
i’m sending STDs out next weekend for a sept. 13 wedding. most guests will have to reserve rooms and get flights, so this is actually about 3 weeks later than i wanted to send them out. i’m addressing them as "The Weddingbee Family" rather than "Mr. and Mrs. Weddingbee and Kiddiebees," just because it is less formal (like babagrl said).
Post # 7
I sent my STD’s out about 6 months before the wedding. But I have received a STD 3 months before a wedding so I think it’s up to you.
As for addressing I was told that you address them Mr. & Mrs or if people live together Mr & Ms. or just plain Miss. But unlike your invites if you have single people you’re inviting with a guest. The STD would only read Mr. John Doe not Mr John Doe & Guest (which would actually only read in your inner envelope of your wedding invite)
Post # 8
Save the dates can go out around 6 months, so you’re doing just fine. Invitations usually go out around 2 months or 6-8 weeks before the wedding.
Post # 9
I think you are fine on the timing of the save-the-dates! I actually used more formal addressing. We also tried to include names of significant others and/or "Guest," since most people will be traveling from out-of town (we wanted to give them plenty of time to plan hotel stays/airfare/etc). But, I think informal wording is perfectly acceptable too!
Post # 10
When to send your STDs depends on what the need is for them – but most of the books say 5 to 6 months. I am just finishing mine for a July 12th wedding. In our case, the main issue is hotels. In reality, hotels would probably still be available a when we sent the invitations (2 – 3 months ahead) but things do book up in the summer around here. For a few guests who live far away and usually plan a summer trip back here to see family, or elsewhere, I actually sent a handwritten note with their Christmas cards to give them a heads up on the date so that they could coordinate their trip with the wedding if they wanted to.
Post # 11
Also, Crane & Co. has a good section on their website on address etiquette. Since our STD are pretty informal looking, I just addressed our as "Nancy and Ron Smith." We will use the formal addressing for the actual invitations.