Post # 1
When sending Save the Dates, do you address them the same way you would the invitation? I.e. if a guest is dating someone, is now the time that I need to find out his last name, or do I just address it to my friend alone and then address it to the both of them for the invitation? Or if a guest is single, but I’m allowing them a plus one, do I need to make that clear on the STDs?
Also, I know if kids over 18 are living at home, you send them a separate invitation– same for STDs?
Post # 3
I addressed my Save the Dates to my friends and did not indicate who would be getting a plus one. Even for couples in serious relationships I only addressed it to the one person, you never know who’s going to break up (in fact one of my BMs did immediately after the STDs went out).
Post # 4
I agree with LGenz, I addressed the STD to couples (as “Mr. and Mrs. Smith”) or the person with whom I am the closest. My brother has one child in the house over 18 and two that are younger, so I just did “Mr. and Mrs. Smith and Family” for them. From my research, it appears as though the etiquette rules for STDs are a little more fluid than the rules for invitations. The only real rule I found was that be sure your guest list is pretty much final before sending STDs. While you can always add folks to the invitation list, there is no way to gracefully exclude folks that have received STDs. I know it sounds obvious, but I’ve seen posts where folks changed venues after their STDs went out and had to un-invite several folks. Yikes!