(Closed) Addressing thank you card when only half of couple came

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I
    Address both to thank for gift and just leave the "thanks for coming" part out : (5 votes)
    26 %
    Address just my cousin and thank her for gift & coming : (0 votes)
    Address both and thank for gift, then specifically thank cousin for coming on a separate line : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Address both, thank for gift, thank cuz for coming and add sorry cuz-hub wasn't able to make it : (13 votes)
    68 %
  • Post # 3
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would just thank them both for the gift and not even mention anything else. If you do any “thanking” for the wedding there is a chance that it will be seen as you being sarcastic so I would just leave it out.

    Post # 4
    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    i would thank them both for the gift and say that you were so happy Cousin X could make it. I agree with Jamaica that it might sound sarcastic, but at the end of the day you do want to thank her for coming.. maybe you could say, “We were so happy to see X on our wedding day”

    Post # 5
    167 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I would  thank X for coming, but thank them both for the gift. You could write something like “We’re sorry Y was unable to make it; he was missed,” if you want to. I don’t think it’s sarcastic-sounding.


    “Dear X & Y,

    Thank you so much for the mitten-warmer. It will surely come in handy this winter when the temperature drops to -40!

    It was so nice to have X join us at our celebration, but we were sad to Y was unable to make it. Perhaps we can get together in the near future to make up for it.

    Thanks again for thinking of us on our special day!

    Husband & Wife”

    Post # 6
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d address both as the gift came from both of them.  Then I’d say something like, “Sorry Cuz-hub couldn’t join us but we really enjoyed spending time with Cuz at the wedding”.

    Post # 7
    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Okay, I voted for option 1, but probably should have voted for option 4. 

    Since they’re a couple, you thank BOTH of them. Thank your cousin for attending, and express regret that her husband wasn’t able to make it, and leave it at that. 

    As someone with a child, it IS hard to line up childcare for a whole day event like a wedding, so try not to hold it against him too much 🙂 They may just not have been able to afford all day child care and maybe that’s why he was upset. 

    Post # 8
    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would also thank X for coming, and say you were sorry to have missed Y and you were thinking of him. Then thank them both for the gift.

    Post # 9
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Totally irrelevant, but my BIL got married in that same barn!

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